Why can't I get people to leave me alone?

I constantly have people being nosey and I can't even sit outside my apartment building without my neighbors being nosey over & over again.then people I don't like at baseball games are always in my business & they know my name even though I don't know their names even.there is a older man who I meet outside the stadium a few months ago.at first I liked the guy until I noticed all he does is gossip and mooch off people.i even told him to stop mooching off everyone & stop gossiping about everyone.most of my counseling session today was me talking about dealing with nosey people & how it was getting to me and how I want to isolate myself even more & I already isolate myself as it is.my counselor said just because people talk me doesn't mean I have to engage in conversation with them and that is the best advice he has ever given me.but I don't like to be rude to people who are trying to talk to me.but multiple times I regret talking to people and then those people become a pain in the *** that won't leave me alone

I'm sorry you are having this problem. I feel like that sometimes because I'm an introvert and I don't need as much social connection. Your counselor has good advice. You could get that down to a fine art, not engage in the conversation and be viewed as well mannered. Good luck.

This is exactly how I feel. I have a bush in front of my condo. I hate it. Every summer it grows these very fragrant flowers. I have tried each year to figure out how to delay the flowers until the end of the summer but it just gets out of control around July. When that happens I have to cut it back and cut the flowers off because the bees get insane. The bush is technically the condo's property but I am allowed to trimm it.

EVERY SINGLE YEAR, this happens.
- neighbor one: Why are you cutting it?
- Neighbor two: are you allergic to bees?
- Neighbor three: can I have the flowers you are throwing away.

People... it is a bush on my land. STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT. I have even taken to doing it late at night but they still come a running when they see me taking the bush out.

At work I have my door shut all the time but, on occasion, I might leave it open. This apparently is the universal sign that people have to come to my office and start talking about some stupid thing that is bothering them. It doesn't matter how much I later shut my office door or how many times they want me to go someplace with them that I say I have work... they just don't get the hint.

I do feel like I have to talk to them. If you don't you are perceived as being rude. And imho it is a lot worse to have people gossiping about you as the crazy neighbor or the crazy co worker than just to put up with it. But I don't understand why people seem to obsess on me.

I feel like I understand how to react to people. I see my neighbor outside and I want to indicate that I am friendly. I say "hello" beautiful day huh? And then go on my way. That indicates that I want you to know I like you but respect your privacy. This leaves it up to you to decide how you want to respond. But other people seem to think it is their job to tell me how to live my life. It only makes me hide in my house from these people.

I like to be around people until they annoy me & piss me off.but I get annoyed easily especially with nosey people.i am a mix of introvert and extrovert if that makes any sense.i want friends but at times I don't want friends

The more my nosey neighbors try and talk to me the more I stay inside my apartment building.also at baseball games they constantly gossiping about me and everyone else & I don't like that.i can't even have a conversation with people in line without people i don't like near me in line listening in on my conversation.i know they are listening in because the people listening people tell others what I said gets back to me or the nosey people act like I told them things about my life I never said to them.i don't think of anyone at games or my neighbors my friends.one guy is going to be hard to avoid.he is really pushy and agressive.he is like a bad cold who won't go away.i am also a private person because I am on disability & don't want to be judged but even before I was on disability I kept to myself

Gossip, BS and drama is their level... They have nothing without it.
Don't know to feel sorry for them or kick em in the ***!