[Macd123]

I didn't mean to but we've been texting for six months and she seems to really like me. I told her that I was too old for her and we could just be friends but I think she thinks it's something more. She talked about taking a trip somewhere with me (I'm sixty two) and I'm so damn alone that I seriously considered it. What makes it harder is that she is lovely and really sweet. She has two cats and two hamsters and takes movies of them and sends them to me. I probably should leave her alone but damn it's fun. I'm probably going to hell 😳😳😳😇

[Bill3]

Good move saying no to the trip idea.

[s4ndm4n2006]

first why would you be going to hell? She's an adult, like you. Second - a warning. Many Russian 19/20 somethings end up being catfish.

[Macd123]

She looks authentic. She takes photos of her hometown and sends them to me. I don't think I'm going to Russia but you never know. If I ever met her it would be on a neutral court - not Russia. She's not overly aggressive which makes me think she's not a phony. Like I said we've been talking for a while and she's never asked me to do anything for her. If she was trying to be an escort type I think she would have tried to get me to send her stuff by now. She mentioned a trip but didn't really persue it. Just nice having somebody who listens to me.....thanks all

[emgreen]

There are tens og thousands of young foreign women who prey on American men in an attempt to get to the United States & gain citizenship. I'm glad she provides you with online companionship, but please exercise caution!!! I wish you well.

[divine1966]

She obviously wants you to pay for a trip.

[Macd123]

Would it be so bad if I did take her on a trip? I don't think I'm going to get kidnapped or anything )))))

[Artchic528]

It's a catfish thing. You're probably talking to a 60 year old guy or something.

EDIT: Please just stick to dating women your own age. This obsession with young, even teenaged women, is super creepy.

[winter loneliness]

It is your choice. Can you afford to take her on a trip? If you can, go for it. But, there is a strong likelihood that this woman (if she is a 19 yr old woman), is using you for your money or to gain citizenship.

Go into this with your eyes open.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Macd123

Would it be so bad if I did take her on a trip? I don't think I'm going to get kidnapped or anything )))))

Not bad. Just that every time you get infatuated with young ladies you get upset and severely depressed for a long time. It's always the same ending. 19 year old talking to 62 year old guy overseas probably does it while with her friends and they all laugh about it. No she doesn't think there's anything more. It's either for fun or to get green card. Or she is a dude. Just be prepared so you don't get hurt.

Originally Posted by divine1966

Or she is a dude.

She could definitely be a dude. Adjust your expectations accordingly.

[Macd123]

Like I said she's not overly aggressive so I don't believe she's not the real deal. If she was trying to scam me or wasn't who she said she was she probably would be burying me with flirtatious messages. She's not - in fact I'm usually the one who initiates any communication. The way we met originally is that she commented on some of my artwork through Instagram. She has an Instagram account and posts photographs she takes in the account. We communicate through Instagram messaging so I didn't meet her on some foreign match.com website, i.e., this was a totally random relationship. We've been texting through Instagram for a while and she generally likes my Instagram posts (art and photos). Now if she's a phony or a scam she's really bad at it because she's wasted a lot of time texting me and received nothing except my communications. I think she's exactly who she says she is a nineteen year old Russian girl who lives in Vladimir City. I haven't done anything yet - that said I really don't have any other options right now.... thanks!!!

Your friend smells like Russian military intelligence.

Do you have something they might want?

[Ray_808]

Now if she's a phony or a scam she's really bad at it because she's wasted a lot of time texting me and received nothing except my communications.

Or maybe she's really good at it because you believe that. I dunno if it's a scam or genuine but I just wanna say that if it's all legit and she's really a Russian teen that likes you, I would caution you to take it easy because people of that age sometimes don't know what they want even when they think they do.

[winter loneliness]

You know, sometimes people "catfish" others because they are mentally ill. Like the original movie Catfish.

She might not want anything other than to mess with you.

[Macd123]

You know I might just be curious enough to see where this leads - getting old and not sure if I care if it doesn't workout....thanks!!!!

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Macd123

Like I said she's not overly aggressive so I don't believe she's not the real deal. If she was trying to scam me or wasn't who she said she was she probably would be burying me with flirtatious messages. She's not - in fact I'm usually the one who initiates any communication. The way we met originally is that she commented on some of my artwork through Instagram. She has an Instagram account and posts photographs she takes in the account. We communicate through Instagram messaging so I didn't meet her on some foreign match.com website, i.e., this was a totally random relationship. We've been texting through Instagram for a while and she generally likes my Instagram posts (art and photos). Now if she's a phony or a scam she's really bad at it because she's wasted a lot of time texting me and received nothing except my communications. I think she's exactly who she says she is a nineteen year old Russian girl who lives in Vladimir City. I haven't done anything yet - that said I really don't have any other options right now.... thanks!!!

If you two just communicate via instagram in regards to pictures you two post then why are you referring to it as an affair and claim that she thinks there is more than friendship? It reminds of baristas who were serving coffee and being friendly and you thought they are into you romantically. If she just posting pics and comment on yours then it's not an affair.

Trust me 19 year old girls don't want relationships with 62 year old men who live overseas (unless they are doing it for laughs or secret agenda)

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Lefty the Salesman

Your friend smells like Russian military intelligence.

Do you have something they might want?

You crack me up.

[emgreen]

Leave the poor man alone. He's been sufficiently warned (I did it, too), so let's leave MacD123 alone. As an adult, he's free to make whatever decision he wishes. Keep your head down, MacD123, but be happy.

[Molinit]

Originally Posted by Macd123

You know I might just be curious enough to see where this leads - getting old and not sure if I care if it doesn't workout....thanks!!!!

You have made teenage and very young adult women into a fetish. Please get help with that, it's very creepy as was stated above.

[emgreen]

Originally Posted by Molinit

You have made teenage and very young adult women into a fetish. Please get help with that, it's very creepy as was stated above.

The guy expressed that he's merely lonely...I don't think he's fetishizing anything - & making such allegations without knowing the dude is irresponsible &, frankly, cruel. Might he be better off looking on a dating site for companionship with someone more his age? I think so but, again, that's not our call. It takes two...even if the guy's being catfished.

[Molinit]

He really doesn't know what age she is only what "she" says (if it's a she) and he has a history of fetishizing only the AGE of someone. He cares nothing for the person, only that they are a certain number of years younger than he. That is a fetish. Hopefully, this person he's talking to online will turn out to be a man and that will be the end of that one.

[Macd123]

I'm not a child molester - since when did dating young adult women become a problem. I know a lot of men who date much younger women. Painful, maybe, fetish I disagree. If you're both adults and in love then I don't see what the big deal is. I wouldn't condemn somebody for dating out of their general age range. I think this is judgmental and not very helpful. Now if you're engaged in criminal activity that's different.... thanks!

i just wanted to point out, that in the past i have flirted with and even gotten really sexual with men who were well into their 50s, and i am 22

and yes, i am a real girl

Another GRU asset. They've penetrated PC.