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Old Sep 17, 2017, 07:43 AM
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She speaks German and French at 19? She actually speaks or just knows some words?
Actually it's quite common in many countries (European especially) to learn a couple of languages fluently at school.

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Old Sep 17, 2017, 08:42 AM
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My great grandmother came from Belgium and could speak Flemish, English, German and French. Great Grandpa (he came from the Netherlands) owned and ran a business and it was quite common for business owners to speak many languages back then. He new 6 different languages. He new German, English, French, Dutch, Norwegian and Sweedish.
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Actually it's quite common in many countries (European especially) to learn a couple of languages fluently at school.
I am immigrated to the US from Europe. So I know. I am just wondering if she and he both actually speak French why are they communicating via google translator and emojis. If I speak to people who share one common language, even if not their native, that's what I use. Not google translator
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Old Sep 17, 2017, 09:10 AM
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On the other hand, I wouldn't expect too much from the Russian education system. I was taught a single foreign language, often by a person who didn't know it that well herself. It was in the early 2000s, and could be a freak exception, but with the current economic situation and nationalist mood I doubt the things are a lot better... Of course, you can just have rich parents and get into a private school. Or perhaps study yourself on the internet, where resources have become significantly more abundant?
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Old Sep 18, 2017, 01:33 AM
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I'm not fluent in French - I just know a few words.....I know she's fluent in Russian and German because she went to school in Germany. I'm not 100 percent sure how strong her French is???? At any rate I'm not driving over there yet!!!!
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I'm not fluent in French - I just know a few words.....I know she's fluent in Russian and German because she went to school in Germany. I'm not 100 percent sure how strong her French is???? At any rate I'm not driving over there yet!!!!
That would be one wet drive!
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I would be skeptical. Tried the young women and it turned out that I was left broke, hurt, and feeling like a fool. Some will do and say anything to get what they want. Try the dating site Our time. Loneliness can make us do strange and desperate things but sometimes it pays to think logically. The attention may seem genuine and feel great but the outcome may end up being something totally different. DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER
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I would have let it drop. That's just me, though. He took enough abuse & was provided a world of advice on this thread. Nice of you to think of him, however.
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I would have let it drop. That's just me, though. He took enough abuse & was provided a world of advice on this thread. Nice of you to think of him, however.


He need not answer if he doesn't want too.

Some people appreciate being asked on there thread.

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IMHO: Foreign women can be legit, but the cultural and/or language differences can be very hard to handle. A 43 year age difference is impossible for even Johnny Depp, George Clooney and Mick Jagger to handle.

Have an innocent, platonic, non-romantic Grandfather and Granddaughter relationship if you have something between you.

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Old Sep 27, 2017, 01:56 PM
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Still talking to her in case you're wondering 😱🙏
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Old Sep 27, 2017, 02:05 PM
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Здравствуйте - this is hello in Russian....
This is 'hello' in Russian if you are speaking to an elder or person of authority, not a peer. Incidentally, for mac or anyone curious, it is pronounced phonetically as "zdrasveeteer". A child would use it with a teacher or an adult with a police officer. Don't recall if I mentioned it before in this thread but I thought about it... the correct form of 'hello' to someone who you are questioning whether or not you are having an online relationship with is (phonetically) 'preevyet'. It is a casual 'hello' - the difference between 'greetings' or 'good day' and 'hi'.
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Still talking - she's great 👍. Thanks!
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Old Sep 27, 2017, 07:27 PM
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Go for it and don't even take into account what other people tell you, especially when they are people who are making no contributions to your life themselves.
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Old Sep 29, 2017, 08:17 AM
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I stand by my opinion that this is deeply disturbing. From a different angle consider the opinions the real people in your life would have. I suppose the real litmus test for this is what would your feelings be if this was reverse. if you had a teenage daughter in a relationship with a 62 year old man would you encourage it? I think too the fact you are questioning this is a big flag for yourself. If your instinct is to even consider the correctness of your actions perhaps that then is an indication of the truth. Remember too that this girl is teenager. I am sorry but I cannot be supportive of this. Besides, you posed this question so it is only fair that multiple points of view be heard.

Protect yourself: emotionally as well as literally. if this is too good to be true, perhaps it isn't. My questioning about this extends to your own well being. What is you are getting in return for your investment in this (not just your time but what may turn out financially too). What is she getting out of this and what is she investing in this.

if this passes the litmus test: you would approve of such an affair with a daughter of your own, you feel comfortable with what friends and family would think, that spending money with no investment on her end is of no consequence; then I suppose we should say good luck and wish you well.

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Old Sep 29, 2017, 09:28 AM
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Okay, probably as close to a Russian expert here - yeah, I know, I'm on the internet so I can say anything, but I've got previous posts on this site where I've responded to people whose location is 'russia' in transliterated Cyrillic, and talked about the time I spent in the former Soviet Union so here goes:

From what you have said, she's likely real and telling the truth about her age, appearance and her interest in you. It's very common over there and Russians very often marry for convenience and security. I realize that Russia isn't communist any longer, but it is embedded in the fabric of society. A communist marriage is not the lovey dovey concept of marriage we have in the West. Marxists sought to destroy the traditional family and succeeded wildly.

Because I speak Russian and am familiar with the customs and have fallen for some of the traditional foods, I end up doing some shopping at the Russian market and know probably every Russian-American in my city - there's a lot. Here's what happens: The girl snags an American guy. Usually he's older, but Russians typically have a much wider age gap between husbands and wives than the United States and Europe, with the exception of France perhaps.

So the girl comes to America wide eyed and truly ready to settle down with this awesome guy. But then, as she begins to assimilate into the culture, the oddness of their relationship starts to hit her. The guys who are hitting on her are young, cute, fun - and not at all like the (sorry Russian guys) philandering, drunk, abusive guys they have to choose from back home. Ask any Russian what the divorce rate is in Russian and they will likely tell you that everyone's divorced in Russia. Indeed, they have a higher divorce rate than the US has ever had in it's history. So marriage - or commitment, isn't highly valued in a Russian marriage.

So, I know close to a hundred Russian girls who came to this country to be with a guy. I know two who have been with that guy for over two years - and those guys are close to terminal. Every other one has moved on to greener pastures. I'll say it again though, typically and in my experience, the girls are sincere - now, but it'll change.
I was skeptical too, then I read the above post and remembered how much cultural differences can play into a situation.

I inclined to agree with yagr here, that I don't believe her intentions are bad.
But I also agree that bright lights and social freedoms can change a person beyond all recognition.
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Old Sep 29, 2017, 08:54 PM
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I don't know why people think it's an affair. Exchanging photos and videos of hamsters on instagram with someone who communicates via emojis and google translator from the other side of the world doesn't mean there is any kind of relationship. By this logic we are all in a relationship because we post online and exchange PMs. I see no sign of relationship.
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I am going to reiterate again, I highly doubt Madonna lost sleep over the fact that she was dating a 22 year old when she was like 55. And all those people who cheered for her at the women's march didn't seem to have a problem with it either.
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I don't know why people think it's an affair. Exchanging photos and videos of hamsters on instagram with someone who communicates via emojis and google translator from the other side of the world doesn't mean there is any kind of relationship. By this logic we are all in a relationship because we post online and exchange PMs. I see no sign of relationship.
My thoughts exactly. I doubt the girl involved thinks this is a relationship. Millennials have tons of people they text or friend on instagram, without giving those people a second thought. Just don't over-invest so that you don't get hurt if it doesn't go anywhere.
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Old Sep 30, 2017, 05:10 AM
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I don't know why people think it's an affair. Exchanging photos and videos of hamsters on instagram with someone who communicates via emojis and google translator from the other side of the world doesn't mean there is any kind of relationship. By this logic we are all in a relationship because we post online and exchange PMs. I see no sign of relationship.
...and it's probably really a man anyway
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