So, when I first moved to my condo.. a woman came over to me and we talked for an hour about management. She convinced me to join the board. I did. I did what she wanted on the board. (which I thought was a good idea). She got what she wanted.. I was dropped like a hot potato. I mean really shocking. I Facebook friended her months before and once the vote was held that she wanted she "unfriended" me -- even though we were still on the board!

The next year was basically me working (doing news letters etc) and them getting the benefit of my work. My term was up so I left the board. I was used... I knew it.

But of course, whomever, runs the board now has done a bad job. He is rude... mean and I have NO idea what is happening because he does not feel the need to tell the residents what is going on. In July I asked some neighbors if they wanted to get on the board and no one wanted to. But everyone agrees they dislike him.

The other day a resident called me in the parking lot to talk about it and ... here we go.

(1) She wants to have a pre annual meeting "meeting" where we talk about our plan. What plan. Just someone run with me and we will vote this guy down.
(2) We are having this meeting now and I am expected to go. I don't want to go. I hate these little dramas. Just run for the board and vote this guy down? Yet, no one wants to.

I just know... I will be assigned some jobs that THEY want... that I don't want. This seems to be a pattern. They seem to thrive on drama but not action. While I thrive on action and not drama.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I hate drama too. So... what would you ultimately prefer to do, and what do you think is best for you?

[Crazy Hitch]

I can't stand drama either. That woman is a B with an itch that dropped you like a hot cake.

I think golden eve has asked some good questions

[emgreen]

Learn this phrase: "Stick it up yer arse!" Tell them you won't be used as a doormat!

Originally Posted by golden_eve

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I hate drama too. So... what would you ultimately prefer to do, and what do you think is best for you?

I would prefer not to get involved in any of it... but, i live here. I don't understand why so many people don't seem to understand how to be a neighbor. It seems like if you choose to live in a condo you should have some understanding how it works. And you should be willing to contribute. I don't understand why people want to "do drama" like go to the meeting and "surprise" the trustee but then won't run for the board.

Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton

I would prefer not to get involved in any of it... but, i live here. I don't understand why so many people don't seem to understand how to be a neighbor. It seems like if you choose to live in a condo you should have some understanding how it works. And you should be willing to contribute. I don't understand why people want to "do drama" like go to the meeting and "surprise" the trustee but then won't run for the board.

I know what you mean. Some people seem to not get the basics of human interaction and relationship. Some people create drama because they're bored and it's something to do. Perhaps just rise above it all and do your part but keep out of the drama and social politics.

Sometimes it's power games.

I think politely but firmly asserting your boundaries may be enough to get then to back off. Even if they are offended it sounds like they are not friends anyway so nothing to lose. Don't let anyone guilt you into doing their bidding.

[divine1966]

I think you can live there but not be involved with your neighbors or the board. It's not a requirement. I am barely ever home enough to even know my neighbours. I'd not be discussing anything with neighbours for an hour (that's way too long, she probably thought yiucare about management and have free time) and wouldn't join the board. There are other interest and hobby type organizations that you can join and they'd bring you joy. There are ways to stay out of drama.

Well I probably am getting used but it seems that the meeting seemed to go well. I was aggressive and just kept emphasizing the point that all the drama and points they were making were 100% instantly solvable by getting good people on the board.

I was willing to do it as long as they could get me one other reasonable person to vote the offending member down. Seems like they are going to ask a few people.

I do hope I can get on the board and basically have free reign.

During the years I have been here it seems like so much stupidity has been done. Usually with my money. And I feel like doing the correct things just isn't that hard. I also made the point that meetings didn't have to be that onerous. Just record them for the record... and don't fight and "speculate" -- come prepared and vote.

I just know I could do a really good job.

[Sunflower123]

Good luck. Hope you get the members on that board straightened out and streamline the process.