Urgent help for a friend in need

Greetings, it is with a heavy heart that I lay these lines of text about my friend and love. She had a breakdown and I need help in helping her(I might need help as well when this ends).
She grew up in an abusive family, lived on her own since 16 with her brother while still having contact with her family. Her brother has some anger issues that are more like an angry kid than an actual threat to her. She did not have friends for a long time, and in the last 2 years, she got me and two other girls, so we 4 became best friends. Since she was solo for a long time she relied on herself and got really well, works at home, has a great school, university record, all the other 3 of us were depressed and lonely before and she got all of us together. We all got along great, went on many trips, talk every day, almost every waking hour. She is very perfectionist, and if something goes wrong she thinks it's her fault all the time. Yesterday we went out, spent the whole day just me and her, had drinks, laugh, walks, the good stuff. By evening all of us talked on webcam and suddenly she started telling she is not worthy, she is a disappointment, she should not be our friend, that she gives up on this life. She didn't want to answer our questions and left, unfriended all of us 3 off social media. She told she will give up university and all her passions. She is very religious and she kept telling us its because she sinned and did something bad. She didn't want to tell us what happened just that she breaks our friendship, we tried and tried but to no avail. We called her back on webcam but managed nothing, she is very strong-willed and aggressive when she has to. Can anyone give me some advice on helping her out ? My heart is broken and couldn't sleep

I have been in her shoes... I left a very lucrative career and then shut everyone out.

I know from my experience...if you push her or pressure her she will pull further and further away...Alcohol...also is probably playing a role in her spiraling moods.

I'm not saying she is alcohol dependent or drinks too much, just saying that alcohol is a depressant and drinking any alcohol when already depressed is going to make things worse...so she unfriended everyone AFTER being out and having a good time...she gets home and depression and low thoughts began and she reacted on them.

As hard as it is...my opinon...because I too will go thru periods of wanting to isolate...is you and the other 2 friends need to step back..don't pressure her into talking...she WILL come around...but wants her space at the moment.

Something that I always WANTED when I was feeling like this...was someone to CARE...but to care from a DISTANCE....Like I would mope around wondering why no one cared...and wish I would recieve a card or letter in the mail saying someone was thinking of me....but that never came for me....I wanted the thoughts and prayers..but not the interaction.

I always end up coming around. I am in that slump right now...and my closest friend has learned...just not to contact me and that I will be back in touch with him when I am ready...my actions are selfish...its not fair that some people care about me and I push them away...But again I know from experience...if you keep pushing forced communication on someone who wants to be left alone it will just push her further away.

For yourself...not sleeping over this? Your a good friend...just SIT with THAT for now...The only thing I think you can do that would really brighten her day is get her a funny card...or write her a little note that you are concerned about her and that you are always there for her if she needs you and then let it alone...

I can almost promise you...she is going to snap back....because I always do...she sounds resiliant...and I was also kicked out at 17 (not 16)...and we had to learn how to live and cope without good adult role models...and experiences like this make a person resiliant...she will prevail....But just give her the space for her to get to the point where she realizes she is lonely and let her know that you all are there for her when she is ready.

Because I find when my friends keep sending me texts...and pressuring me to be in contact with them...it makes me feel worse because I feel like a terrible friend for not wanting contact....So NOW...they just wait..and I do come around...she will too.

Hello. Welcome to PC. Can you let her know you care for her and you’re going to give her space but you are there if she needs anything or wants to talk. It sounds to me that she is a perfectionist and whatever sin she thinks she has done is a big factor in her behavior. She’ll come around. Be patient.

Thanks for the answers and she did not drink alcohol when we were out only coffee and juice if she drank at home then its another story. I managed to talk to her, after 2 nasty remarks she told me she has to deal with this alone so i told her that I respect her wish and when the time comes i will be there for her

She did not drink alcohol on our outing, and today after a bit of talk and her nasty answers she told she has these feelings she must face and she has to face them alone, I answered that I understand and respect that and when the time comes ill be there to listen to her

She did not drink alcohol, and today since I missed her so much, asked her how is she doing and I got some nasty answers until she told me that she has some feelings she must face alone. I answered that I understand and respect her choice. And also that I will listen when she is ready