[palsera27]

There is this woman I like but she presumably straight. I’m not 100% sure of her sexuality so I can assume she’s either.

Is it possible to get her to kiss me

[healingme4me]

That's certainly an unexpected question. Do you spend time with her getting to know her? Do you know her well enough to straightforward ask her for a kiss?

[palsera27]

I’m planning on getting to know her

[divine1966]

I don’t think it’s good use of time trying to get straight woman to kiss you. Wouldn't it be more useful to pursue women Who like other women. Now if you don’t know, maybe it’s a good idea to just ask her if she is straight?

[All Is Revealed]

It's very possible. It will take time and patience for this to happen. You girls will need to go out, hang out, and share secrets. Only when someone is 100% comfortable with you, are they willing to cross their boundaries. This involves you girls visiting each other's homes, sleeping together (as friends) and almost acting like a couple.

Us guys call it a bromance when we feel like this. A straight friend of mine once kissed me when I least expected it. It made our male bond stronger, and we kissed several times after that. But he is married now to a woman and with kids. I always saw him as a friend, not a boyfriend.

You can do it. I believe in you.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by All Is Revealed

It's very possible. It will take time and patience for this to happen. You girls will need to go out, hang out, and share secrets. Only when someone is 100% comfortable with you, are they willing to cross their boundaries. This involves you girls visiting each other's homes, sleeping together (as friends) and almost acting like a couple.

Us guys call it a bromance when we feel like this. A straight friend of mine once kissed me when I least expected it. It made our male bond stronger, and we kissed several times after that. But he is married now to a woman and with kids. I always saw him as a friend, not a boyfriend.

You can do it. I believe in you.

So are you suggesting that any straight person would be willing to get romantic with person of the same gender if you pursue them aggressively enough? But by the same logic gay person would eventually get romantic with a person of opposite gender if that person constantly pursued them? Really?

So it would be wise of me, straight woman, to pursue a gay man by being by his side 24/7 and climb to bed with him (as friends) and then eventually he’d succumb to my pursuits and kiss me?

That’s the strangest logic I’ve ever seen. Why would somebody pursue that aggressively person with different sexual orientation? That’s not even respectful. It invalidates who people are.

Climbing in bed with person of different sexual orientation in hopes they cross a boundary is just sending a message that you (hypothetical) have no respect for those persons preferences

[eskielover]

It's very possible. It will take time and patience for this to happen. You girls will need to go out, hang out, and share secrets. Only when someone is 100% comfortable with you, are they willing to cross their boundaries. This involves you girls visiting each other's homes, sleeping together (as friends) and almost acting like a couple.

Us guys call it a bromance when we feel like this. A straight friend of mine once kissed me when I least expected it. It made our male bond stronger, and we kissed several times after that. But he is married now to a woman and with kids. I always saw him as a friend, not a boyfriend.

You can do it. I believe in you.

This would indicate CHOICE & not born that way which is NOT what is claimed by those who are gay & it is very disrespectful to even think that someone who is straight would cross that boundary.

Are you JUST wanting a kiss? Are you hoping for more? Are you hoping that this straight person really isn't straight or are you hoping to CHANGE her?

Does she become your conquest if she is straight & does kiss you?

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by All Is Revealed

It's very possible. It will take time and patience for this to happen. You girls will need to go out, hang out, and share secrets. Only when someone is 100% comfortable with you, are they willing to cross their boundaries. This involves you girls visiting each other's homes, sleeping together (as friends) and almost acting like a couple.

Us guys call it a bromance when we feel like this. A straight friend of mine once kissed me when I least expected it. It made our male bond stronger, and we kissed several times after that. But he is married now to a woman and with kids. I always saw him as a friend, not a boyfriend.

You can do it. I believe in you.

This advice is extremely insulting and in most cases it will end in getting told "stop following me around!" Someone is either interested or they are not. If they're not interested, you can't change them. We don't even know if the woman in question enjoys the OP's company as a friend. They don't know each other yet.

The only way to develop a real relationship with someone who WANTS to kiss you is to pursue another gay or bisexual woman who shows mutual interest. I'm gay too and I would never pursue someone who is straight. Don't you want someone who likes you, too?

[Agent Misty]

We really don't know the person your asking about, or exactly how your relationship currently is.

I've kissed straight women, lesbians, a gay guy (which resulted in some backlash from his friends for me disrupting his... normal inclinations.. but hey, he kissed me). I'm a woman and I'm straight-ish. So it happens. The answer to "is it possible for a woman to get another straight woman to kiss her" in the most general sense, is yes.

No one here knows if it could happen in YOUR circumstances... because it's a specific situation with specific people, not a generalization. This woman you speak of could be someone who is borderline homophopic for all we know (worst case scenario, yikes)

With what we actually know about the situation based on the info you gave and the type of question you asked in general.. you'd be just as well off asking a magic 8 ball.

Once you get to know her you'll find out the answer naturally.

[MickeyCheeky]

If you want to just kiss her and nothing else, I'd suggest to just give it up.. it's not worth it.

[All Is Revealed]

Oh wow. My advice was definitely misconstrued, misunderstood, and definitely taken to the next level.

It's a possibility. Not a guarantee. There's a huge difference.

Plus I have lots of experience with people of many sexualities. As a gay guy, I've kissed lesbians, straight women, straight men, FTM and MTF transgenders, and even asexuals.

Sexuality is a very complicated subject, but we're talking about kissing here, not sex.

I've made many people IRL very comfortable around me to the point they wanted to share a kiss with me. And I'm very proud of that.

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by palsera27

There is this woman I like but she presumably straight. I’m not 100% sure of her sexuality so I can assume she’s either.

Is it possible to get her to kiss me

Hello palsera, I know from your other posts that you've had a crush on this lady for some time. And I've read that you saw on her Facebook that she is heterosexual. You are looking for romance with a lady that would probably feel extremely uncomfortable and possibly horrified at the thought of being romantic with someone of the same sex.

I'm sorry, yes you can ask her but I think you are going to be disappointed. There will be plenty people who would want a relationship with you, you will find true love in the future but not with this lady. Take care.

[palsera27]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Hello palsera, I know from your other posts that you've had a crush on this lady for some time. And I've read that you saw on her Facebook that she is heterosexual. You are looking for romance with a lady that would probably feel extremely uncomfortable and possibly horrified at the thought of being romantic with someone of the same sex.


I'm sorry, yes you can ask her but I think you are going to be disappointed. There will be plenty people who would want a relationship with you, you will find true love in the future but not with this lady. Take care.

From what I learned about her she is very supportive the LBGTQ community.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by palsera27

From what I learned about her she is very supportive the LBGTQ community.

But what do you want, a kiss or a romance?

If a kiss is all you want to satisfy your needs, I'm sure that wouldn't be such a horrible request, but I do worry that if she does kiss you, you'd like it to lead to more and that simply can't happen if she isn't into other women irregardless if she supports LGBTQ or not.

[Erebos]

Possible? Maybe.
Should you? Probably not.

Slightly weird that's your initial thought and as far as I can tell your only aim. Maybe you should be looking at someone more suited.

All the best.

[palsera27]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

But what do you want, a kiss or a romance?



If a kiss is all you want to satisfy your needs, I'm sure that wouldn't be such a horrible request, but I do worry that if she does kiss you, you'd like it to lead to more and that simply can't happen if she isn't into other women irregardless if she supports LGBTQ or not.

I would like relationship with her if possible

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by palsera27

I would like relationship with her if possible

Then if she's not into women, it's out of the question. I would give up on her if she is not into women.

[winter loneliness]

It depends.

Does she have to like you emotionally? Because even if she did kiss you, it might not mean anything to her. There are "straight" women that make out sometimes, but it would only be for sex.

[s4ndm4n2006]

I'm baffled by this thread. I really don't understand the desire to have one of a different sexual orientation be interested in you. Is that some kind of conquest victory to "turn" a straight person or even vice versa?

[All Is Revealed]

Originally Posted by palsera27

I would like relationship with her if possible

It's good to know she's supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community. At this moment, I hope you're pursuing a friendship with her. Once you've been friends for a few months, learn more about her. Learn her likes, dislikes, wants, and needs. This is what true friends do.

One you've established a friendship with her, get to know her sexuality. She might state she's "heterosexual," but she will truly identify herself to a close friend. Be ready for the outcome. Because if she's truly heterosexual and you make a move on her, this will end in disaster. This is why getting to know her comfort zones is extremely important.

My personal experience: As a gay guy, I have many "heterosexual" male friends who unexpectedly came on to me (yes, they came on to me!) and then they get hurt when I reject them.

If she rejects you, then it's time to move on to the next project.

I apologize that I don't know the full history here between you and her.



P.S. All of our caring members at PC are giving you a supportive answer. They're kindly asking you not to pursue someone relentlessly. We have to accept rejection. If not, this can interfere with our mental health. Much love.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by palsera27

From what I learned about her she is very supportive the LBGTQ community.

Being supportive doesn’t mean she is up to kissing Women. I am very supportive of lbgtq community as well as am a member of Pflag. Still no interest in kissing females even if they (as someone suggested for whatever reason) sleep in bed with me. I often share a bed with females on girl trips (if there are three of us it’s wise for two people to share a bed). Still no kissing. Because I like men

I think you’d be better off pursuing Women who like other women.

[scorpiosis37]

The idea of manipulating a straight woman into kissing you is equally as offensive as the idea that a man can manipulate or "change" a lesbian into kissing him. Is that really the message you want to send? With all the prejudice in the world-- which I have suffered my fair share of-- giving straight women an actual reason to fear a lesbian sleeping over at a girl's night-- just rubs me the wrong way. I've had straight friends/acquaintances fear that I would hit on them just because I'm gay-- which, of course, I would never do. Not interested in straight women. But with other women actually doing that, it gives straight women a reason to continue unwarranted homophobia.

Think about how you would feel if a straight guy was planning out a manipulative game where he would become your friend, invite you to sleep over as friends, and then-- just when your defenses were down-- make a move on you. Because, after all, he thinks he can "change" you and has no respect for your orientation. Would you like that? Or would it hurt you to know he was never your friend-- he just wanted to manipulate you to get a kiss.

[divine1966]

Excellent post Scorpiosis.

In addition to it being incosiderate it seems too much effort to just get someone to kiss you. I can’t imagine an adult going to such length pursuing someone (willing to manipulate a person of different sexual orientation) to just get a kiss.

Question for OP re age? Are you a minor?