bothered by a question

so a little back-story info here: my three year old niece (just turned three earlier this month) is battling a rare form of eye-cancer. a journal-like website page as been set up for her.

does it make me a bad person if I don't check it and follow along / read all the posts??

if I'm being honest here, then I gotta say I can barely handle my own illness (two MIs)! how can I handle someone else's on top of that?! even if it is a family member.

I was told when my niece was in the hospital for almost a week cuz her numbers were low. but all the other stuff, I'm not told (that's kinda how my family is). so should I let them make me feel bad about not knowing things?? and how do I respond when they say 'well don't you check the webpage'?

p.s. I'm a STRONG introvert and my niece's mother is the complete opposite, if that helps any...

When they ask about the webpage - tell the truth. If you don't, you will be found out sooner or later anyway bc there are only so many false excuses you can come up with before they are no longer reasonable.

As far as should you feel guilt. What and when you feel something is a choice only you can make. It you feel you have good sound reasons for the choice to not look at the page - then reasons for feeling guilt do not jump out at me, but you may not see it as I do. If, on the other hand, you are using what you said as merely an excuse rather than a legit reason as to why you don't view the web page - guilt feelings would seem to most likely be evident to me. Again, you may see things differently.

In the end, your emotions and choices are yours and nobody can tell you what to do with them.
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I dont check webpages like that either. You could just say that you know they will let you know if anything really serious happens but you have problems constsntly checking web sites for information

No, nor everyone folliws those kinds of things. Guess I might look at it every few weeks of maybe once a month but they will tell you when spmething serious happens & that is when important support is needed anyway.

Definitely not something to be made to feel guilty about especially if you are busy with things in your life. Caring is one thing being obcessed with having to constantly check a whole other thing

I think that when it comes to immediate family, is callous to tell family that updates will only be available online. It takes less time to text or call than to post a blog.

I don't think you need to feel guilty - you've given a valid reason as to why you don't want to check it often. Perhaps try to check in only once in a while. Besides, I think you will be warner if there are major updates..