Something I don't want to talk about triggered this, but I'm thinking about how I've never belonged in a group, how all through school I was never once invited to a birthday party, sleepover or anything like that. Even now I don't ever get invited to anything. Sometimes I feel stronger because of it...like I don't need anyone. Other times it just hurts. Maybe I should spend more time here and less time on Facebook.

[CalamityJane425]

Originally Posted by iPhone

Something I don't want to talk about triggered this, but I'm thinking about how I've never belonged in a group, how all through school I was never once invited to a birthday party, sleepover or anything like that. Even now I don't ever get invited to anything. Sometimes I feel stronger because of it...like I don't need anyone. Other times it just hurts. Maybe I should spend more time here and less time on Facebook.

Hang on!
Try doing something for yourself whatever that maybe. Try a distraction whether that is a TV show, watching your favorite DVD (which is what I do) or remembering a favorite childhood cartoon ( I go this route which helps). It is painful when your not included or invited. I know. Being left out is horrible.
Find some way to cope. Try finding a therapist. I've found that just relying on this shouldn't be the only coping mechanism.
I feel your pain. Ride it out, it will pass.

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I know that feeling. If you ever want, come hang out with us in the Life By Misadventures thread.

[Travelinglady]

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[MickeyCheeky]

The same thing happened to me. I can totally relate. I'm sorry you're hurting..

[Bill3]

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[ZilchHour]

Dear iPhone,

I understand that all of us want to be included and part of a group, it helps us hold on to something and seek/extend support when needed and share our joys and sorrows.

Personally speaking, I've not been much of a success socially and it has often bothered me - to the extent that I'd end up even more lonely.

Over the years, I've assessed that the qualities I look for in other people in order to befriend them, I should develop them in my own personality. For instance, I would befriend an interesting and happy person and someone who's sad or boring, I'd not want to approach them. Just an example from personal experience. So keep cool and maintain a pleasant outlook. I'm sure people will invite you and befriend you.

One more thing - again personal experience. Sometimes people who we wish to get closer to do not want us (their loss) and on the other hand, there are always people who we push off because we don't like them. Don't get too focused on those who have shut you out and keep an open mind. In the end, we all receive our share of love, joy and friendship; just don't get fixated on the source.