[rdgrad15]

In the past, I’ve had some people end a friendship with me or other people for various dumb reasons. The most common being they heard something about their friend from someone else and just assume that what they heard was true, even if they knew your friend very well. I had this experience. In college I was friends with someone but then at the beginning of a school year, she met some new friends that were freshmen. Me and her were friends for almost a year. Well she started ignoring me when she met her new friends and then one of them told her I was backstabbing her which wasn’t true. I couldn’t believe she believed it and now think that means she never thought of me as a friend.

Despite her knowing me very well and she knew I didn’t talk bad about other ls, she believed the freshmen who told her and she asked me to tell the truth and asked why I did that. I told her that it was false and that I wouls never do that and she knew that. She countered it by saying someone else, who barely knew who I was anyway, had said it was true so therefore it must be true. We stopped hanging out after that. Turns out she did that to some other people as well months after she did it to me.

At first I thought I was alone but apparently not. Not sure if she had some sort of emotional problems or if that was just her cowardly way of trying to end friendships she no longer liked or never liked. After that happened, and after I heard she had done it to several other people, it made me wonder if she was either having problems or if she thought of friends as disposable and was too scared to end a friendship in a more mature manner, therefore, making up stories and trying to get people on her side and to stop hanging out with someone. She would tell other people about what she heard about a specific person, even if it wasn’t true or had no proof, and try to get them on her side, so it made me think she was never a real friend to me or others.

What are some dumb reasons people ended a friendship with you? How did you deal with it? I understand that most friendships don’t last long, but at times like these, I feel like some people are either too scared to tell the person they just simply don’t want to be friends anymore so they make up a lame reason that may not even be true or they have some problems or may not have been real friends in the first place. Do you think people like this really weren’t friends in the first place? Do you think it is cowardly to end friendships this way? Just wondered.

[FallDuskTrain]

Most used my chronic depression as a reason to end friendships, which is not a dumb reason but a very cold one for sure.
The dumbest reason was when my best friend of 18 years joined this religion (no name required) and ended his friendship with me because the "masters" told him so. Apparently, he meditated, got out of his body and reached the astral plane. there he met with the masters who told him to cut me out of this life.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain

Most used my chronic depression as a reason to end friendships, which is not a dumb reason but a very cold one for sure.
The dumbest reason was when my best friend of 18 years joined this religion (no name required) and ended his friendship with me because the "masters" told him so. Apparently, he meditated, got out of his body and reached the astral plane. there he met with the masters who told him to cut me out of this life.

Yeah I’ve had people not want to hang out with me because I have a hearing impairment, look a bit different, and just have overall anxiety and possibly depression as well. I’m sorry that happened to you. Having someone end a friendship due to depression is cold and was probably not a real friend to begin with. The other religious friend really sounds strange for ending a friendship for that reason, whether that was the real reason or not.

[frustlandlady]

I had a friend who ended our friendship when she got married. I don't know why, maybe she was scared that I would reveal her sexual past to her husband? Althought I am not such a person and I would never do that. Maybe her husband didn't like me? I don't know. All I know is that our friendship ended by her marriage and that she sounded embarrassed when she told me that she was dating that man, who was like her brother something. They were very close friends uo to then. The whole thing was very dumb in my opinion.

[frustlandlady]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

In the past, I’ve had some people end a friendship with me or other people for various dumb reasons. The most common being they heard something about their friend from someone else and just assume that what they heard was true, even if they knew your friend very well. I had this experience. In college I was friends with someone but then at the beginning of a school year, she met some new friends that were freshmen. Me and her were friends for almost a year. Well she started ignoring me when she met her new friends and then one of them told her I was backstabbing her which wasn’t true. I couldn’t believe she believed it and now think that means she never thought of me as a friend.

I am sorry for all of this...

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by frustlandlady

I am sorry for all of this...

Thank you.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by frustlandlady

I had a friend who ended our friendship when she got married. I don't know why, maybe she was scared that I would reveal her sexual past to her husband? Althought I am not such a person and I would never do that. Maybe her husband didn't like me? I don't know. All I know is that our friendship ended by her marriage and that she sounded embarrassed when she told me that she was dating that man, who was like her brother something. They were very close friends uo to then. The whole thing was very dumb in my opinion.

Wow yeah that sounds like a dumb reason to end a friendship. I’m sorry that happened.

Dumbest reasons?

A friend suddenly one day decided to find God and then immediately cut herself off from anyone non church going. She hadn't attended church herself beforehand.

After another friend had a Down Syndrome baby (beautiful girl still a gift), she let loose on a tirade of why had God forsaken her, what had she done wrong to deserve the punishment. This was her seventh baby and she was in her early 50s. When I gently pointed this out to her, she got up left and I have never seen or heard from her again.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Dumbest reasons?

A friend suddenly one day decided to find God and then immediately cut herself off from anyone non church going. She hadn't attended church herself beforehand.

After another friend had a Down Syndrome baby (beautiful girl still a gift), she let loose on a tirade of why had God forsaken her, what had she done wrong to deserve the punishment. This was her seventh baby and she was in her early 50s. When I gently pointed this out to her, she got up left and I have never seen or heard from her again.

Wow those are both very dumb reasons. I'm sorry that happened.

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah I’ve had people not want to hang out with me because I have a hearing impairment, look a bit different, and just have overall anxiety and possibly depression as well. I’m sorry that happened to you. Having someone end a friendship due to depression is cold and was probably not a real friend to begin with. The other religious friend really sounds strange for ending a friendship for that reason, whether that was the real reason or not.

What kind of people stop being friends with someone for reasons like this? I can't even imagine!

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by frustlandlady

I had a friend who ended our friendship when she got married. I don't know why, maybe she was scared that I would reveal her sexual past to her husband? Althought I am not such a person and I would never do that. Maybe her husband didn't like me? I don't know. All I know is that our friendship ended by her marriage and that she sounded embarrassed when she told me that she was dating that man, who was like her brother something. They were very close friends uo to then. The whole thing was very dumb in my opinion.

Had you told her that you thought it was dumb for her to be dating him?

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

What kind of people stop being friends with someone for reasons like this? I can't even imagine!

I know, I agree. With the hearing impairment, I can understand how it can be annoying to others since I have to ask people to repeat things a lot even though I have a hearing aid and no one likes having to repeat things, but still, it is rediculous. With depression, who knows. It is stupid. People can be so cold and judgemental.

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

I know, I agree. With the hearing impairment, I can understand how it can be annoying to others since I have to ask people to repeat things a lot even though I have a hearing aid and no one likes having to repeat things, but still, it is rediculous. With depression, who knows. It is stupid. People can be so cold and judgemental.

You're hearing impaired, its not your fault. That doesn't change what kind of person you are. When depressed your friends should step up the most. This really chokes me up.

I had a friend who was in a serious accident and left quadriplegic. He lost most of his friends. He and I used to talk for hours about life and random stuff. He was still him, just physically disabled. Ironically our friendship ended when he made a comment about me being off my meds. People are hard sometimes.

Judging me from other people's perspectives. I think if we could all stop judging each other we'd certainly have a lot more friends. I'm guilty of this somewhat, there are many people I wouldn't be friends with. I think we naturally like people with some common interests and values. I'm not saying anything new here. But witholding judgement until you get to know a person first hand, as in only talking to that person without other peoples gossiping interfering, certainly helps. It's one reason why I never liked being a hairstylist, women love to gossip after the last client leaves.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

You're hearing impaired, its not your fault. That doesn't change what kind of person you are. When depressed your friends should step up the most. This really chokes me up.

I had a friend who was in a serious accident and left quadriplegic. He lost most of his friends. He and I used to talk for hours about life and random stuff. He was still him, just physically disabled. Ironically our friendship ended when he made a comment about me being off my meds. People are hard sometimes.

Yeah I agree. People can be so hard sometimes. It is rather sad. And yeah, that is ironic that your friend would do that.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by disparaissant

Judging me from other people's perspectives. I think if we could all stop judging each other we'd certainly have a lot more friends. I'm guilty of this somewhat, there are many people I wouldn't be friends with. I think we naturally like people with some common interests and values. I'm not saying anything new here. But witholding judgement until you get to know a person first hand, as in only talking to that person without other peoples gossiping interfering, certainly helps. It's one reason why I never liked being a hairstylist, women love to gossip after the last client leaves.

Yeah I agree with you.

[TeachingRebel]

When I was a teenager my best mate told me he didn't wnt to be friends anymore because he thought we were 'drifting apart.

Felt pretty weird.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TeachingRebel

When I was a teenager my best mate told me he didn't wnt to be friends anymore because he thought we were 'drifting apart.

Felt pretty weird.

Wow, kind of weird. If there was no bad rifts and you guys were just simply drifting apart which happens sometimes, your friend could have just remained quiet rather than state the obvious.

[TeachingRebel]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Wow, kind of weird. If there was no bad rifts and you guys were just simply drifting apart which happens sometimes, your friend could have just remained quiet rather than state the obvious.

Yup. Very weird. Normally with people that have different interests, you drift apart organically.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TeachingRebel

Yup. Very weird. Normally with people that have different interests, you drift apart organically.

Exactly.

[BreakForTheLight]

I didn't ride my bike fast enough.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by BreakForTheLight

I didn't ride my bike fast enough.

Really? Wow that is crazy. There could have been another reason but was too afraid to tell you. I hate it when people end friendships and give stupid reasons like that.

[BreakForTheLight]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Really? Wow that is crazy. There could have been another reason but was too afraid to tell you. I hate it when people end friendships and give stupid reasons like that.

Oh I know the real reason was just that she'd made new friends and didn't need me anymore. In fact she was never really my friend, just using me....

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by BreakForTheLight

Oh I know the real reason was just that she'd made new friends and didn't need me anymore. In fact she was never really my friend, just using me....

Wow, yeah she probably wasn't a real friend and honestly the friend that I mentioned in this post most likely did the same thing. She probably just didn't need me anymore and probably just hung out with me out of boredom since she didn't have many friends at first and just used me. So she may have just made up the whole scenario. Same with your friend.

[TishaBuv]

She said I remind her of who she used to be.