Me and my fiance Fred went snowboarding. I still had remnants of a cold/flu.
I hired my bits and bobs but being Xmas time,money was tight so I didn't think I could quite afford a lesson before I hit the slopes.
I went down the beginner s slope twice and I stayed up. But stopping was hard and I had to fall back gently on my butt to stop once or twice. I watched the lessons and they actually went down backwards with board horizontal to master stopping. I had the balance. I just needed some pointers in a lesson and to take my time.
Fred had all the works and had been on holiday boarding and he left me, and went up the big main slope. I was on my own. I could have been kidnapped out in the mountains.
He came down and said I would be okay and I joined him. He was just thinking of himself as he always did.
It wad not a good idea. I should have stuck to the beginners slope. It was too steep and fast and I was learning to steer and stop. Fred laughed at me. So I took the board and I threw it down the hill.
I know it was it was a dangerous thing to do, as it may have tripped someone up. It wasn't like me to lose my cool.
So we retreated early to go drink hot choc. While I was reeling from Freds self centred Ness. Why he wouldn't lend me money for lessons after his work gave him a decent bonus. Having a cold didn't contribute to matters. But I won't make anymore excuses. I threw the board, I and should have ignored his laughing.
I should have said right next time I get lessons. What's done is done. Nobody got hurt, just my pride.

[SorryShaped]

Pride is a hard thing to deal with. It's a very dangerous beast, especially when threatened or damaged. He laughed at you? Bit rude, but if you saw someone else do it, would it be funny?
Usually, when we're a beginner at something, we fail, and fail, and fail some more. It's whether we continue to try, failure after failure, that determines if we'll improve.
I laugh at my failures sometimes, usually things that require coordination above and beyond me, and it gives me the energy to try it again anyway. "Oh I forked that up bad! I must have looked like an idiot! Just like always! Haha. I'mma go do it again. Hey (insert name if I can remember it [I really fail at remembering names]), could you show me how to do that? I still can't get it. I'm sorry that I forgot again, but what's your name?"

[eskielover]

Slopes are safe....no kidnapping....that is a little over dramstic. I know you went with him & it would have been nice of him to have stayed on the beginner slope with you...but it also would have been wise of you to have stayed on the beginner slope since yiu knew you didn't know what you sre doing & NEVER had lessons.

Is there some reason yiu didn't discuss the nit knowing & lesson situation with him before you even went there? He should have known enough not to take yku on the more advanced slopes. It is obvious that he really doesn't pay attention to your needs making it ALL THAT MUCH MORE IMPORTSNT for you to look out for yourself. If this behavior is on the slopes, I am sure it is also in other areas of your relationship. Is this REALLY the kind of relationship you want?

Originally Posted by eskielover

Slopes are safe....no kidnapping....that is a little over dramstic. I know you went with him & it would have been nice of him to have stayed on the beginner slope with you...but it also would have been wise of you to have stayed on the beginner slope since yiu knew you didn't know what you sre doing & NEVER had lessons.

Is there some reason yiu didn't discuss the nit knowing & lesson situation with him before you even went there? He should have known enough not to take yku on the more advanced slopes. It is obvious that he really doesn't pay attention to your needs making it ALL THAT MUCH MORE IMPORTSNT for you to look out for yourself. If this behavior is on the slopes, I am sure it is also in other areas of your relationship. Is this REALLY the kind of relationship you want?

Yes I agree whole heartedly and I should have stayed on the beginners slope. I will most definitely be taking lessons next time!

[eskielover]

This reminded me if the time I was dating a guy in college who wanted me to go hang gliding with him. I went BUT when it was my turn to go, I tried to pick up the hang glider & couldn't get it off the ground. I thought....WOW, if I can't even pick it up off the ground, I'm sure not going to be unwise enough to jump off the cliff with it. I gladly just watched most of the guys not actually do it either.

I have done snow skiing all my adult life (after high school) I got onto some mogul slopes in Jackson Hole Wyo at the ski resort there where we vacationed for over 20 years. Somehow I hit a bump wrong & did a yard sale crash face first down the steep slope. We were out with iur ski instructor friend & he headed down the hill to brace & stop me before I broke anything (like my neck) I was a lot more cautious about the slopes I took after that. Our daughter who has skiied since the age of 2 1/2 is fearless & could do most advanced runs. I knew NOT to accept the "ah come on mom" invitations even after years of ski lessons. One has to recognize their OWN LIMITATIONS.

[SorryShaped]

I would never forgive myself, missing any chances to fly. I'm glad that you're ok with it. I'd do it every time, even if I could barely drag the thing to the edge. I've never even strapped on skis or a board. I have no idea if I'd do that one, skiing or boarding. Flying still seems safer to me. I did a dry luge once and that was insane fun, even though my neck hurt for three months like crazy afterwards. I shouldn't do those things that can cause more injury to my neck, but if it feels right, I'll leap every time.
That's all very much like my life, I'll take the risks that I can fall from, but tumbling downhill isn't ok. Yet, I snowball downhill a lot. Hmm

[eskielover]

Lol....I've gone flying but it has been off a horse....over the ears, off the side, & even over the back of the saddle off the rear end.

Only other thing close that I enjoy is repelling & zip lining because have something grounded to hang onto with those activities.