I'm into my 2 and half week of no contact. I wish I didn't have feelings for him then I wouldn't put him on a pedestal. I can say I am definitely better. I'm not madly obsessed about him but I do have thoughts and urges to keep looking on my phone to see if he has a text. I'm including activities like learning a language and playing games to distract myself. I feel like my life is boring somehow and there's no excitement because he's not in it. I had a crush on him and I think that's partly why. It's like a chore living life. I feel like excitement has left my life. it's hard to explain.

[Bill3]

It will get better.

(((((HappyCheeks)))))

Good job keeping busy!

[Erebos]

Sounds like your doing everything right. Still early days.

Wishing you all the best.

[rechu]

I have been in that situation. The first weeks are very tough, but yes, it does start to get better. You'll find that you are thinking of him less and starting to move on.

If you have friends that you can do things with, that will help keep your mind off of him. I had some great friends at that time that would invite me over for lunch or come over with a bottle of wine and keep me company.

Hang in there!

[WasabiAlmonds]

It keeps getting worse until about four weeks then it gets better. Hang in there and keep talking.

[crushed_soul]

Maybe, maybe not. Whether or not there is change, "improvement" and so on seems to depend on a variety of factors in general, but the factors and number of factors seems to differ for people in general.

After much research for my personal nonsense, there does not seem to be a specific length of time for such recovery, change, healing and so forth. Please, consider not confining you, your recovery and so on to a specific duration of time, expectations and more.

There has been no contact between me and my ex for almost four months, but I am still very much broken and destroyed as is my life. During these four months, I have been physically alive, but how I have been is as if I were not. Moreover, distractions for me only seem to be that, distractions. They do not necessarily help, but they might (for you.) I only mention me and my nonsense as evidence (in addition to the evidence in research) for my perspectives expressed in this post on if "it gets better or not."

Back to your question, I am not going to consciously mince words, consciously deceive you and so on. Depending upon the circumstances and multitude of aspects that are particular to you, your situation, "it" may or may not "get better."



I wish for you to be well, to heal, to be as you choose to be (whether it is to move on or not) and to become the change that you choose to be.

[Travelinglady]

I think it will get better as you meet more people and see others you care about or even have a crush on.

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

I think it will get better as you meet more people and see others you care about or even have a crush on.

I did start liking someone at one point and he was so kind but I found out he's taken. However it has made me realise what I want in a man.