Kind of sad

Hey, thanks Divine, thanks Seesaw. Ok, so we ended up talking. He likes me but is fine with moving slow, and good with communicating too. He said something kind of weird "you're reading into what I was saying" in terms of him calling me "babe" and "hon" LOL. I was like, no I'm not, lol. I wasn't and I know its not weird to think that. But at the same time, he calls everyone that, LOL. Any who, we're gonna see each other again this week.

edit: Also I'd said the same thing to him (about wanting to cuddle with him) a couple days ago, through text. I think I need to get to know him better.

You might try explaining that you'd prefer he call you by name, see how that goes.
And good luck!

Of course people can connect. I and my husband connected immediately, before we even met. And it happened to me before.

But I just personally prefer people don’t text me that they want to be laying with me after first date or call me “baby”. I personally prefer different kind of men. Even if he knew I am his future wife on the first date (which happened with my husband and me), I still prefer that he doesn’t love bomb with ton of texts and pet names after spending few hours with me.

I don’t think it’s anything to agree or disagree with. We can only advice on what we think. It’s neither right nor wrong.

That’s the whole point. Good idea to get to know people better first. Clearly something made you uncomfortable. If something makes you uncomfortable (like things he says) you don’t need to put with it. Hope second date goes well

I'm with. I was just stating my experience.

Thank you! I really struggled emotionally with the fact that he said "I think you're reading into that." It was so...it felt invalidating and it was odd. But we didn't talk about it in depth. I did let him know that that comment made me feel defensive. And I said something like "I don't like being criticized," when he asked why, but its more than that. It felt inaccurate, for me, and it was just invalidating in general. I am going to stand my ground with him. He didn't pull back when I told him that comment bothered me. He stuck his ground about his opinion. Some things about him really have rubbed me the wrong way. But I like him, and he likes me, and he said he won't say those things "babe, etc" if I don't want. We have a very good conversational vibe. Divine, I appreciate you saying I don't have to put up with it.

He also said things that were conflicting. For instance, he is ok with me not knowing about him, being open about dating others at this time (though I'm not) and he just wants to get to know me better. At the same time, he does seem to like me quite a bit. Our phone conversation was very nice. When I talk to him, I find myself liking him a lot too.

About my feeling of him being "Fake." I think I jut don't know him. And it wasn't the whole date I thought that. Just at dinner. he was raving about our pizza,lol. And saying he was really enjoying our time together. Idk. It just felt over the top for me, lol.

I'm not trying to figure anything out atm. I just wanted to say all this.

In terms of his invalidating comment, I ended up turning it into a joke. It helped.

I asked him if he's bisexual, btw. He's not. I am glad. And he wasn't offended that I asked. He may just be a metrosexual, lol.