[Madsie212]

Hi guys ,
I need a bit of advice, lately I’ve been seeing new boys as I’m single , and I’m finding it really hard to develop any kinds of emotional feelings towards them, they are really lovely guys and are so nice and caring and I know would take care of me , but I’m struggling so hard to feel emotions for them and allowing myself to fall in love, and I don’t know what’s stopping me as I’m interested and want a relationship but I cannot feel .. it’s almost like a brick wall is in front of me preventing me from falling in love and it’s really bugging me..
Please help as I don’t understand what is going on .

[Skeezyks]

Hello Madsie: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I don't know why you are having the experience you are having. And unfortunately, try as I might, I could not find anything, either in PsychCentral's archives or on the internet in general, that addressed this kind of concern.

Sometimes such mental health conditions as depression & anxiety can blunt a person's ability to experience emotions. (Psych medications will also do it.) Or I suppose there could be some experience, or experiences, you had growing up that caused this. Or perhaps you simply haven't found the right guy yet... nice as the guys you've met recently may be. This is the sort of thing people sometimes see therapists to decipher. It may simply be that you're going to have to do something such as this in order to figure out what's going on here.

In the meantime, hopefully other members, here on PC, will have some similar experiences they can share. My best wishes to you...

Hmmm........ perhaps the chemistry is just not right for you with these particular guys? You can most certainly meet nice men who are caring, but still not develop any romantic feelings for them. The chemistry has to be there, too. A spark between you, physical attraction, etc. Are you not physically attracted to these men?

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, you can't really control your feelings. If you don't feel attracted to them, just keep looking - hopefully you'll find someone.

[WasabiAlmonds]

What do you think is causing the brick wall?

Usually anxiety is at the root of apathy, so is there trauma in your past you may be unconsciously defending yourself against?

If not this, then maybe these guys are boring and you need more chemistry.

[seeminglyreal]

I'm sorry I can't help you, as I feel the same way. Ever since I had my heart broken a few years ago I feel like something died inside of me. Hopefully we will find a way out.