[LiteraryLark]

I am too afraid to say the details so I will state the basics.

I know it's bad professionally speaking to have a workplace romance, but my thoughts are that we are consensting adults, we will continue to have a professional/non-romantic relationship at work, and there will be no commitment or a relationship status. The downside is that he is a step above me in rank professionally and he is considerably older than me.

Would this even work? Is it worth pursuing? I am absolutely crazy about him and I just found out he likes me, too, and I'm just all confused about everything because I thought it would be just a fantasy and then I find out he likes me too

[hprodf]

I think I remember hearing that something like 40% of couples meet in the workplace, so it's not uncommon. I also think that meeting like minded people often on a similar intellectual plane to yourself means feelings can naturally develop.

Ultimately, it's hard to know what is or might be appropriate as I don't know the dynamics of the relationship or your workplace, but it can work out either way. I know people who work with me that met at work and are now happily married over a decade later, whereas others didn't see it work out and now seem to have an awkward relationship.

If you know you both have feelings, it might be worth just having a mature conversation about it and see where that leads

[TishaBuv]

Go for it!

[ohmydaisy]

I find that it can get complicated. Especially if someone is of higher rank than the other. There’s a power dynamic that can get tricky. And if anyone else finds out, it could get ugly. But if you’re able to separate professional and personal and not let the the one affect the other, it could be okay. I tend to avoid any sort of relations at a workplace to avoid problems.

[MickeyCheeky]

You could give it a try If it doesn't work, so be it.. hopefully there won't be any repurcussions. Take it easy.

I say be careful. I'm not saying definitely don't do it. Use your judgment. It could get complicated and if it ends and gets awkward to see him at work, are you willing to quit your job and look elsewhere for work?

[Middlemarcher]

If he is a superior of yours (and not someone in a different department or something), definitely give it a pass. That breeds resentment among co-workers and can go south if things break up.

[Bill3]

there will be no commitment or a relationship status

How will you feel three or six months from now, say, if you've seen him regularly and intimately but there cannot be relationship status or commitment or public acknowledgement of mutual affection and meaning?

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by Bill3

How will you feel three or six months from now, say, if you've seen him regularly and intimately but there cannot be relationship status or commitment or public acknowledgement of mutual affection and meaning?

I am moving at the end of summer. I'm considering it a "secret summer romance". No one will know about us. I am even careful about texting him when one of us is at work. We act normally when we're on the same shift.

[continuosly blue]

I don’t believe you mentioned if your married or have a relationship going on now with someone. If so , what your thinking of doing can turn out to be a big mistake. You both are probably just using each other, is that how much respect you have for yourself ? A workplace romance ruined my marriage. That’s why I feel the way I do. Let your conscience be your guide.

[WasabiAlmonds]

Go for it as long as you truly have feelings for this person and you're not simply lonely because of no other options.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by continuosly blue

I don’t believe you mentioned if your married or have a relationship going on now with someone. If so , what your thinking of doing can turn out to be a big mistake. You both are probably just using each other, is that how much respect you have for yourself ? A workplace romance ruined my marriage. That’s why I feel the way I do. Let your conscience be your guide.

Neither of us are married or in a relationship.