Hello issue with wife

hi everyone...

i am facing issue with my wife. i found out 9 months back that she is involved with a guy since 7-8 months....just on phone emotionally nothing physical. Then things got bad and she said she would leave him....after 8 months when we were sharing good relationship...i again discovered that she is in touch with him. Though it wasn't any romantic chat...but just hi hello....still i was not ok with it.

One fine day I was high and I telephoned my father in law and spoke about this in bad manner. Now he is not sending her back to me. We both love each other and wish to stay together. Having said that, she also has to listen to her father. I have hunted my father in laws ego so he is teaching me a lesson.

I am in very bad shape. Initially her relationship was troubling me....and now this.

I have 10 years old kid as well. Please help how to cope up. She is in touch with me over phone. But she is finding my fault as to why I called her father while I was drunk. She is not seeing I had reason to call. Ideally I wouldn't have called him but as I was drunk I couldn't control my emotions and called him.

Hello lostparadise: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.

I'm sorry I don't know if there is much I can offer with regard to the situation you describe. I see you list yourself as being in Mumbai. So I presume your culture is different than what I would be familiar with. I suppose the situation you describe could occur here in the U.S. where I live. But I think it would be unusual that a father would be able to prevent a married woman from returning to her family. However it is also unclear as to whether your father-in-law is actually preventing your wife from returning home or if she is choosing to stay away.

Anyway... you asked for help with regard to how to cope. So here are links to 5 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of how to heal from heartbreak. They're intended for people whose relationships have ended. But perhaps some of the suggestions in them can be of some help to you too. Also included are links to 3 articles on healing relationships plus 3 on what to do when you feel lost:

Moving Through the 5 Stages of Breakup Grief | Inside Out

12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

Help on Healing from Heartbreak

How to Get Over a Breakup

How to Rebuild After a Break Up

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-a-...onship-crisis/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...-broken-trust/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/about...t-broken-open/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-y...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/weigh...from-yourself/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/so-you...dium=popular17

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.