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Nov 27, 2007, 09:00 AM
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Any suggestions on how I can show my wife that I am in love with her? I have tried flowers, writing letters, sending cards, and writing poems. I have also tried to be there for her to help out with anything she may need help with. She is truly (sorry for the cliche) the apple of my eye. She is the most wonderful person I have ever met willing to give when she is not able. To be more like her I really strive to be. Thanks!
Dragon
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Nov 27, 2007, 09:18 AM
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I think just keep doing what you are. things didn't go bad over night and they will not heal overnight. are you both still going to the marriage counseling?
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Nov 27, 2007, 10:08 AM
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I think you are doing a good job. Keep trying. If I could get my fiancee to do those things it would make things better here. Women want to feel special make sure she feel special. Recreate a special date from the past. Stick an I love you note to the window of her car before she leaves for work. It's the little things that make a girls heart flutter.
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Nov 27, 2007, 12:19 PM
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simple. - Tell her!
 Nothing works better than hearing the words "I love you" whispered in your ear. Of course gifts are nice, but nothing shows love more than inexpensive actions, words or a simple hug and/or kiss when she least expects it.Kelly x |
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Nov 27, 2007, 12:50 PM
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D.P. I think that anyone who's been abused by someone in a relationship or taken for granted,etc, basicly wants one question answered...why should I trust you with my feelinds again? I mean,whats diffrent now? something was wrong before, you say you fixed it but you could'nt tell me what it is exactly that you've fixed or how you've changed.it will take time and effort for her to once again see you as a safe place for her love, so think long term. but also keep up the other stuff and take the other suggestions offered here and always remember that actions speak louder that words.
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Nov 27, 2007, 01:18 PM
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Give her her own space in your head as well as literally. Don't "crowd" her trying to prove how much you love her in your own fashion, "wait for it" (like in baseball, swinging at the "right" time) to come from her. Giving a woman flowers, candy, jewelry, cards, etc. if that's not what they want can hurt your cause because it shows you aren't thinking of "them" as individuals but just doing the cliche thing. You can't try to "imagine" what a woman wants, you have to get to know the woman as she actually is. Find the movie Three Days on television and watch it (it's seasonal/Christmas so on now). The protagonist guy reminds me of you, Dragonphoto)
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Nov 27, 2007, 01:26 PM
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i totally agree with perna. my ex boyfriend bought me this elaborate make up case and one of those kay 3 stone diamond necklaces with the past, present and future. he bought me a locket with our names engraved on it.... however, i never wear make up and never wear jewelry. so while any guy would think that those would be awesome presents, i hated them.
my current boyfriend does things like buys me snickers lol and i loooooove snickers. (and mr. goodbars) or he buys me a book. he got me happy feet and march of the penguins and penguins are my favorite animals. its more showing that you know her. find something unique that would show her how much you know her not how much you love her. i would much rather have an interesting book than some flowers. |
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Nov 27, 2007, 01:33 PM
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In the past most of her gifts have been scrapbooking supplies because I know she loves doing that. I do not buy jewlery unless it is something that she has shown a complete intrest in. As far as flowers go the only ones I really buy are tulips because she loves the most since they are the first flowers I gave her when we started dating. Other than that a body pillow and comfy soft clothes. I know my wife, we have this wonderful bond where each one of us knows what the other is thinking. When she was pregnant with our first child I got sympathy morning sickness as well as with the second. When she does not feel well I can feel the syptoms myself, but I rarely get sick. I can look in her eyes and know what she is thinking about as she can do with me. Thank you for all the suggestions.
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#9
Nov 27, 2007, 01:52 PM
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then it sounds like you have it all planned out. it sounds like you know her well enough. i guess you just have to wait for the wounds to heal. its very hard to believe that someone is not going to abuse you again because very rarely do they ever really stop abusing. good luck with you and your wife.
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