[Deyla2324]

It’s been 4 weeks since the break up, I barely thought about him and I was not obsessing about him, stalking him on fb, I am sleeping, eating and felt much motivated in general, It felt like I was back on track. My son traveled to spend thanksgiving with my daughter and I. Since he lives in the states I never spoke to him about my ex. This morning he asked about him and I told him what happened. I guess talking about him stirred up my emotions and I’m back at feeling really sad. I woke up this morning so energized and so positive and I can’t believe that talking about him was going to make me feel this way. I’m back at feeling like I want to call him. I won’t do it but that’s what I want to do right now. I have every reason to feel happy, I have my daughter and son with me and I just want to feel happy. I’ve been asked to go on a date by a guy I liked and talked to on an off for about 6 years, he is a radio announcer and his dad owns the radio station in the town that I live, good looking and educated and I can’t even accept to go out with him, I’m not ready, I am still in love with a guy that does not deserve anything from me. I so desperately want to forget about him and continue my life as he never happened. I might have you bored with how I deal with my emotions but it really does help me feel better when I write here, I am sorry!!!

[MickeyCheeky]

((((Deyla2324)))) Don't worry. It can happen. Take your time to heal, it's never easy. If you were able to forget him once, you can do it again. One step at the time... I'm sorry you're sstruggling so much

[Deyla2324]

Thank you! I know it is a process but I didn’t think that it was going to affect me to talk about him. Today I was getting my nails done with his son’s godmother and I burst in tears while telling her what happened. She told me that he will never change and I should not take her for granted because she has known him for years. I just have to be strong and continue to stay away from him.

HI Deyla, I am not sure of the backstory, but it sounds like things ended for a good reason. Of course there will be sadness and tears. Your initial response is pretty unusual after a breakup, unless one 100% knows for sure it's the best thing and their feelings have run dry for the person. But when you loved someone and break up, it's a sad circumstance and it typically is mourned. So what you're going through is normal.... just allow the tears and allow the sadness, but do nice things for yourself too, and yes, look to all the positives you can embrace in your life. In time, it will fade. And don't go on a date if you're not ready.

[Mopey]

There's no question that when sad feelings build up, venting almost always helps. May not change the circumstances but if people will really listen, it's almost always a great relief. That's one of the great things about a forum like this.

Personally I've been missing a loved one who cut me off about a year ago. It was worse awhile back, but it still hurts. What can I say? I loved him.