[gloria]

h said now that he loves me, I am the love of his life, but he wants a divorce because he thinks somebody else could make me happier than him .... guilt, guilt! He is sad, I can see it in his eyes.
I feel bad for him!!!

gab

[Rapunzel]

Maybe he is sad, but you need to not lose sight of knowing how good he is at manipulating you and making you feel guilty. Do you think that manipulation could be behind what he is saying, even a little bit? If he really does love you he will sincerely want you to be happy, and you are not happy in this marriage because he is emotionally abusive. Someone who truly loves you will not try to make you feel guilty for finally standing up for your needs.

Wendy

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[beacher27]

I agree with Rapunzel when she said not to lose sight of the fact that he might be manipulating you when he tells you someone else will treat you better. I'm sure it must be really tough on your daughter. Just be there for her.

[gloria]

Thank you ozzie, rapanzel, shakes, sesquix, beacher27. Your care is really really appreciated. Just came back from therapy, my greatest challenge now, is staying strong.
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gab
<div class="foot">(Edited by gloria on 07/28/04 06:31 PM.)</div>

[Meachie]

You can do it! (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))

[shakes]

Gloria,
I believe in you!!!

Jessica

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Im sorry this is so hard right now for your family. You might think of monitoring your daughters sadness just to yourself. If it seems to be persistant, you may think of getting her into therapy. The ages between 8-11 are very critical in a person's self-esteem and persistant feelings of lonliness and depression can affect that child allot if not intervened. I'm glad your daughter has a mother as sensative as you. She is blessed!

[gloria]

Thanks for being so sweet. My daughter and I are talking as much as she can, I don't push it, but I an available all the time, no matter what it is that I am doing, if she need me, the rest can wait.

My t suggested we wait until he actually moves out to start t, my concern is that he's starting to play games with her and telling her he is very sad, and is going to be lonely, and he loves her very much, bla bla bla. so now she is saying she wants to live with him. I'm glad it won't be her call, but it sure is going to put a dent in our relationship.

gab

[shakes]

What a jerk!!
Your daughter is very lucky to have an emotionally observant mother like you. However I do agree that therapy might be helpful after this starts to occur. Although your relationship with her might be strained in the beginning I am sure that when she gets older she will understand the entire story.

Keep the faith lady!

Jessica

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