Understanding hypocritical behavior

rdgrad15 · 09:16 AM

Just out of curiosity, what causes some people to believe it is okay for them to do something but not okay if other people do the same thing? We all know someone, both family and friends, who are like this and just wondered what may be the reason they think they are allowed to do something but then gets mad if anyone else does it, especially if it is towards them. It can be annoying but people are like that. I think we are actuall all guilty of doing that at some point. We may do something but if someone else does the same thing, especially if it is directed back at us, it is like how dare you do that. Interesting how that works.

MickeyCheeky · Jan 11, 2019, 09:22 AM

I think many of these people are just self-centered, rdgrad15. They think they can do certain things because they have the right to, but they clearly don't think much of other people. That's just my opinion, though. I agree it's human behavior to a certain extent. Sometimes we do some things but we don't want to face the responsabilities of it. That's what I think, at least. Sending many hugs to you

sarahsweets · Jan 11, 2019, 09:40 AM

I'd be a hypocrite if I said I was never hypocritical.

mote.of.soul · Jan 11, 2019, 10:19 AM

True. I think lack of awareness or self reflection, also a form of self righteousness or a fear of being wrong[!] come into play here. But if a person has the inner strength or clarity to admit to their faults, then there's a possibility of change.

12:10 PM

Reasons for normal people:
Lack of self-awareness or in the words of a therapist, "We all have blind spots":
If you sit down and talk to them gently, and ask them to put themselves in your shoes, they are likely to understand your position.

Reasons for narcissists:
Lack of empathy: Not sure if there is much hope there...

rdgrad15 · Jan 11, 2019, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I think many of these people are just self-centered, rdgrad15. They think they can do certain things because they have the right to, but they clearly don't think much of other people. That's just my opinion, though. I agree it's human behavior to a certain extent. Sometimes we do some things but we don't want to face the responsabilities of it. That's what I think, at least. Sending many hugs to you

Totally agree. In some cases, it is just natural human behavior but an excessive amount could indicate something more serious like you mentioned.

rdgrad15 · Jan 11, 2019, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I'd be a hypocrite if I said I was never hypocritical.

Same here, and same for everyone.

rdgrad15 · Jan 11, 2019, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by mote.of.soul

True. I think lack of awareness or self reflection, also a form of self righteousness or a fear of being wrong[!] come into play here. But if a person has the inner strength or clarity to admit to their faults, then there's a possibility of change.

Yep totally agree.

rdgrad15 · Jan 11, 2019, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ennie

Reasons for normal people:
Lack of self-awareness or in the words of a therapist, "We all have blind spots":
If you sit down and talk to them gently, and ask them to put themselves in your shoes, they are likely to understand your position.

Reasons for narcissists:
Lack of empathy: Not sure if there is much hope there...

Totally agree. With normal people who are just making a mistake like anyone could, then yes they can be reasoned with. Though people who are narcissistic or any other serious problem or just a severe sense of entitlement or arrogance tend to not really have any hope of change.

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