[dragonphoto]

We did our Christmas shopping and things went well. Actually this was the first year that I did not mind going Christmas shopping. I picked her up that morning and went to breakfast and then we started on our journey. The day was a wonderful day we actually talked about normal things. Last night I picked up the kids because my wife had to work late. I made dinner for her and I and then we talked about normal things again. I forgot how nice it was to talk about things other than myself. I just have to remember that it is not always about me and I will be fine. I am not jealous at all like I used to be and the reason why is we are talking and she is smiling. I am not as sad as I was before either. So I guess there is hope one way or another.

Dragon

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((( dragon & wife )))))))))))))))))))

I'm so glad you both had a good day shopping! All these little steps you are taking are wonderful and you should be proud of yourself for working so hard towards a better relationship with your wife and family.


sabby

[dragonphoto]

One step at a time and one day at a time. It was really hard for me to figure that out before, but things are much clearer now. Thank you very much.

[nowheretorun]

keeping my fingers crossed for you Dragon.. thanks for the update...

[dragonphoto]

I am keeping my toes crossed to, that is why I am taking one step at a time so I don't trip over myself.

[nowheretorun]

(smile) you're a good man Dragon

[_Hope_]

Glad to hear it

Linda

[dragonphoto]

I don't know if I would say a good man, but very dertermined to be with the woman I am in love with.

[salukigirl]

its really refreshing to see a guy who actually is devoted to a woman the way you are. maybe its because im surrounded by college boys all day but my impression of guys is that theyll take anything with a hole. so its very nice to see your posts and know that there are guys who do truly love their wives/girlfriends etc... so yes, id say youre a good man, too.

[bebop]

I am very happy for you! taking things slow is a good thing to do. it shows her the real you!

[Cyran0]

Saluki, it would be very rare to find a college guy who isn't entirely about passion. From what I've seen, even when young men experience intense love, it's a fast moving shallow stream. I'm not slamming my own sex but we're just wired that way until our mid to late twenties (if then).

Dragon, congrats man. I can't necessarily speak from experience but I suspect a whole string of good days can make for a week or month or even a year of good days. Then the next thing you know, you're 90 and you're still with the woman you love.

I'm a hypocrite of course but this seems pretty sensible.

Cyran0

[dragonphoto]

Well things have changed for me. I no longer feel the need to be so clingy with my wife. I realize that she is her own person and I am my own. The whole co-dependent thing really stinks. I don't know where it comes from but I am over it. I should have listened to what all my friends said in here, but I was blinded by needing someone to hold me and talk to me. My wife is a wonderful woman and I have suggested that we go to couple's sessions again in hopes that we can both get straight (mainly me) in our heads what we want. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever met and I cannot forget to mention how loving and caring she is. When I lost my job (after 9-11) she was there for me holding me and telling me things would be ok. And they were that is the one thing about the two of us. Whenever one of us tells the other that everything will be ok, then we strive to make sure that it is. Anyway getting verbose here but I just wanted to let all my friends know I am taking three or four steps back. I hope everyone has a great day.

Dragon

Dragon I have nothing but admiration for you and your hard work...You deserve so much happiness....sending you hugs and positive vibes....although you have so much positivity you don['t need mine lol!!!!!Bless you, Kerry xxxxx