[Fantastic_Frank]

As I have stated ion other post I had brain tumor surgery and I am still dealing withnthew effects from this I am doing what My Case Manager at the VA Suggest for me to do as much as the pain will allow me to do. I have the following disorders or medical P{roblems:
Bi Polar Disorder
Osetoarthritis in my Hips and Back
Sleep Apnea
Obsession about thoughts
Brain Tumor recovery Issues
100% disabled SSDI from Brain Injury related to Surgery
Now that has been established let me tell you another problem straight up I have only been with 3 women in 4 years and One tiome was with 2 women at once I thought that might help I dont know why, and with one other one about 2 months or more ago, The problem my roomate said it is intimicy and I shake so bad i think that they are going to hurt me or something I forgot to say that my exwife abiused me sexualy, Physicaly, Verbaly, Mentaly, Emotionaly So I quess I need to Add that I was raped 3 times By men twice on a date rape drug that was given to me by a female and thewn she watched me get raped this was someomne I thought I knew ans I thought we were going to have sex, instead I got raped. I dont know where to go with this all I know is I have Trust issues and I have requested A therepist with the VA. My roomate Melissa has been a Very good friends and very understanding I love her very much, we are best friends, I dont trust men and I wont really open up and talk to a man about my problems. Right now all my contacts in the VA are wommen except for My Primary Care Doctor and then doctor at the MISA VA program here inn Gainsville, Florida. I just wanted to see if anyone out there has been thru anything like this and If so How do you start over?

[helpless_mommy]

I don't have any advice to offer aside from seeing a therapist which you are seeking. Just wanted to let you know I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and that I hope things improve a little day by day, week by week, month by month.
(((Hugz)))

[sabby]

Hi Frank,

Sounds like you have an awful lot going on at once here. It must be frustrating at times trying to figure out your best course of action.

Therapy is a good place to start though. Are you on any meds for your bipolar and other mental disorders? I wonder too if your brain injuries are making it difficult for you to make healthy choices in your life. If your thinking is skewed by the surgery and injury, I think it's important for you to look into specific therapy for brain injured individuals. There are ways to retrain your brain and coping mechanisms that you can institute to help you in your day to day life as well as learning ways to make better, healthier decisions.

I wish you well Frank in your quest to better health.


sabby

[Ocean13]

The stuff you've been through and what you are going through must be very overwhelming. I've never had any experiences like yours but wanted to remind you to have SAFE SEX. With so many people having HIV/AIDS and other sexual diseases you need to protect yourself.You don't need more stress in your life. Peace Ocean