[Rabbit3]

Yesterday, while I was at the veterinarian's to put my very sick cat to sleep, my Fiancee of 5 years sent me a text breaking up with me. He was supposed to go with me to take my cat in but when he ignored my texts I went in without him. The night before he said he had to work late and would pick me up the next morning so we could leave for our vacation. I got a good morning text from him and then some odd incomplete texts that made no sense. Then he sent a text that said " I think we're done" with no explanation and he would not answer when I called. I wasn't even sure if he meant our relationship. I drove to his apartment hoping to talk to him but he was gone. I have a key to his apartment and let myself in. I found a receipt that said he spent $200 on dinner with someone last night and his bag was gone so I'm assuming he went on our vacation, maybe with someone else. I am so heartbroken, I've spent 5 years with this man and this is how he ends it. This is sadly not the first time he has cheated on me and broke up with me. A year ago he just disappeared and I lost my mind thinking he was hurt or dead. We eventually got back together but we were never the same again. I don't know how to deal with this. He's been my best friend for so long and a huge part of my life. I know what he did is the lowest of lows but all I want is to go to him for comfort.

[bpforever1]

Please take care of yourself first. I would not worry about him at this point and enjoy the fact that you are free to do what you want. If you want him back as a friend, I would reconsider this thought given the fact he hurt you. Friends are there in one's time of need. You don't even know where he is now so just let him go for now and heal thyself. You may be lucky to not have gotten any further in the relationship with him if he did this to you once before. I would think of your situation as a blessing and move on. Why don't you enjoy your holidays by entertaining yourself or be with family or friends who truly care about you? I found out the hard way myself but remember that you must put yourself as a priority first. No matter what happens in the future, you are important and worth it to put yourself first and foremost. Please keep writing here or you can pm me if you need to vent. I hope your situation improves and that you feel better about yourself and your situation.

[Have Hope]

That is appalling. HIs true colors have shown themselves for a second time (since he cheated before). This man cannot be trusted, and you are better off in the end. I'm so sorry for your pain. Please do take good care of yourself. Go to your friends and family for comfort, and vent on here. HUGS.

[divine1966]

I am so sorry about your cat

I think you dodge that proverbial bullet. Imagine you married this man and he’d do these kind of things? Just leave and not even explain???? What if you had kids?

Did you financially contribute to that vacation? How can he just take other people? I’d demand my money back if you paid your part.

Otherwise 5 years is long enough to waste on this jerk. Don’t waste another day

[Molinit]

I'm sorry for the loss of your cat.

Did you pay for this vacation? He seems like he is a user to me. Block him from everything and DO NOT ever get back with him again. Stop going back for more of this treatment.

What an awful thing to do to someone. I hate to say it but he's not best friend material nor is he fiancee material.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[Open Eyes]

It sounds like this guy is just using you and when something else comes along he will just up and dump you. Good friends simply don't do that. I hope you did not spend any of your money on this vacation the two of you were supposed to go on.

[sarahsweets]

That is really terrible and not something that is easy to bounce back from. Do you have stuff you left at his place or things he has of yours? Did you pay for the vacation? I would sort that part out but do not take him back no matter what he says.

[LilyMop]

I’m very sorry you lost your cat. I’m especially sorry you had to go through this loss all alone. You have been treated horribly by this man. I know how much your heart is hurting right now but just keep facing the pain and find your strength. You do have strength and you need it for yourself right now. Never go back to this guy. He is not your friend and he will only hurt you. You are lucky to be free of him, you just don’t realize it yet. It takes time to grieve and build ourselves back up. Please put yourself first and take good care of yourself.