[Foo Fighter]

Hey guys. Remember how I brought up my father in law's girlfriend? Well after her behavior on Christmas Eve I decided enough was enough and blocked her for good on Facebook. She was sticking her nose into when my husband and I would have children. She asked my husband and he did tell her something along the lines of hopefully someday soon. We found out we are expecting but I'm at five weeks and my husband and I decided to wait until February when I will hopefully be at 12 to 13 weeks to make the announcement. Anyway we go to see them on Christmas Eve and my nephew was playing a game were he bought a "baby". We joked about it and my FIL's gf comes between me and my husband and says "Don't you wish you could just buy a baby?" I gave her a look ( because WTF?) and my husband recovered for us. I decided to chalk my reaction up to hormones but it was embarrassing and unwarranted. Still my husband says Don't let it ruin the day and the rest of the day goes good. Laughing, eating some great brunch and watching my nephews play their strategy game. It was going good until we opened presents. One of the last ones my husband and I opened was bedsheets from you know who and his dad ( I don't think his dad had anything to do with what happened next but just explaining). FIL's gf announces in front of everyone my husband and I needed "Clean babymaking sheets." Remember that forced smile that the father from Corpse Bride gives when he is told to smile? That's what I looked like. My husband and I were thoroughly embarrassed but tried to play it off. I know this seems petty and maybe I am making a big deal but she crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. I do get it was a joke but it was hurtful and inappropriate. What if my husband and I were infertile? Or this pregnancy doesn't work out ( which I'm stressing out about allready)? Or if we simply decided not to have any? I told my husband I did not find her comments in any way funny, that I was sorry for being a stick in the mud or a drama queen but that joke crossed the line. Also I found out she potentially baited us with this as she asked my hubs for dimensions of the bed for bed sheets. Enough is enough. I have enough stress building a tiny human and I don't need her cracking offensive jokes or saying potentially harmful stuff. Yesterday I blocked her for good ( I was taking a break from her and I followed through on the "one more crack like that and I will block"). I thought I would feel better afterwards but I feel guilty. I feel like maybe I rushed to make that decision and maybe I am easily offended......that and this has the potential to start WWIII. But at the same time I don't want her sticking her nose into this pregnancy where it doesn't belong as she has shown she will do that. I'm sorry for the rant and all its just a mixed bag and I needed to vent.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by Foo Fighter

Hey guys. Remember how I brought up my father in law's girlfriend? Well after her behavior on Christmas Eve I decided enough was enough and blocked her for good on Facebook. She was sticking her nose into when my husband and I would have children. She asked my husband and he did tell her something along the lines of hopefully someday soon. We found out we are expecting but I'm at five weeks and my husband and I decided to wait until February when I will hopefully be at 12 to 13 weeks to make the announcement. Anyway we go to see them on Christmas Eve and my nephew was playing a game were he bought a "baby". We joked about it and my FIL's gf comes between me and my husband and says "Don't you wish you could just buy a baby?" I gave her a look ( because WTF?) and my husband recovered for us. I decided to chalk my reaction up to hormones but it was embarrassing and unwarranted. Still my husband says Don't let it ruin the day and the rest of the day goes good. Laughing, eating some great brunch and watching my nephews play their strategy game. It was going good until we opened presents. One of the last ones my husband and I opened was bedsheets from you know who and his dad ( I don't think his dad had anything to do with what happened next but just explaining). FIL's gf announces in front of everyone my husband and I needed "Clean babymaking sheets." Remember that forced smile that the father from Corpse Bride gives when he is told to smile? That's what I looked like. My husband and I were thoroughly embarrassed but tried to play it off. I know this seems petty and maybe I am making a big deal but she crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. I do get it was a joke but it was hurtful and inappropriate. What if my husband and I were infertile? Or this pregnancy doesn't work out ( which I'm stressing out about allready)? Or if we simply decided not to have any? I told my husband I did not find her comments in any way funny, that I was sorry for being a stick in the mud or a drama queen but that joke crossed the line. Also I found out she potentially baited us with this as she asked my hubs for dimensions of the bed for bed sheets. Enough is enough. I have enough stress building a tiny human and I don't need her cracking offensive jokes or saying potentially harmful stuff. Yesterday I blocked her for good ( I was taking a break from her and I followed through on the "one more crack like that and I will block"). I thought I would feel better afterwards but I feel guilty. I feel like maybe I rushed to make that decision and maybe I am easily offended......that and this has the potential to start WWIII. But at the same time I don't want her sticking her nose into this pregnancy where it doesn't belong as she has shown she will do that. I'm sorry for the rant and all its just a mixed bag and I needed to vent.

I dont think you are being a drama queen at all. She is being rude and inappropriate and probably would pull one of those "you're too sensitive" bs moves if you said something. No one has a right to be on your friend's list and cause you stress. Block away.

[divine1966]

No need to feel guilty. She is out of line. Rude. And no one is required to keep people as friends on FB.

[Open Eyes]

I don't think it's so much about you having a baby. It's more about how this woman tends to push herself or what she considers important on others that's the problem. Even her gift was about herself pushing at you and that's not being thoughtful and respectful. Your decision to have a child needs to be YOUR decision, not someone else's. It's not her place to tell you how to live your life and that's what she has been doing that turns you off about her. It's her personality type that rubs you the wrong way.

[poshgirl]

Her behaviour is totally unacceptable. What goes on in your life is your own business. You've made right decision about baby, it's usual to wait until around 12 weeks to tell family and friends.

Perhaps she has an agenda. Does she want children with father-in-law? Or just divide the family. Often seen this happen when a new partner comes along. Many times interpreted as jealousy.

Don't blame this on pregnancy hormones. How you've reacted is normal. Sounds like she wants to be "top dog". You'll have last laugh when you announce you're expecting. Sadly, that may go completely over her head!

[MickeyCheeky]

You did what you've had to do. You're practicing self-care! It is perfectly legitimate of you to get hurt by those comments. I do agree that she crossed a Line there. Please do NOT feel guilty. You have every right to take care of yourself! Don't feel guilty about it, uh?! I hope your Pregnancy will go REALLY well! Keep us updated if you wish to do so, uh?! Ok?! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Foo Fighter, your Family, your Friend, your Husband, your Baby, your Relatives, your Parents, your Cousins, your Uncles and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[TishaBuv]

I’m sorry this happened to you. I think there’s been a huge movement of families fighting because of Facebook and unfriending online and IRL. It happened to my family and over nothing at all.

[Foo Fighter]

Thanks again everyone. I was afraid of what I did because I had a,similar situation growing up. My grandfather met a woman who divided the family and I don't want this happening to my husband's family or for him to go through that. We discussed it and he hates her. I think this is the first person he's come across who views his Aspergers as a bad thing ( that is another story) and sees him as inferior or childlike for having it. I told him it was not his fault and that if she can't show him any kindness that was on her, not him. I still stressed the need to talk to his father was going to be sooner rather than later. Thankjs again for your help, hugs and advice!

[hvert]

Is it too early for congratulations?!!! That woman's comments about the clean sheets are pretty weird. Who says something like that at a family dinner?? Crossing my fingers she and FIL split up soon so you guys just don't have to deal. Sometimes I have blocked people by putting them into that FB category where we are still friends but they can't see anything I post, just to avoid the drama that comes from them asking why I blocked them.

[TishaBuv]

She sounds like the stereo typical grandma who craves grand children and expresses that relentlessly with no boundaries.

I hope you don’t have a war over the block. I have also used the Facebook setting that stops the person from seeing my posts and they aren’t blocked or unfriended so they have no idea.

[Open Eyes]

. I think this is the first person he's come across who views his Aspergers as a bad thing ( that is another story) and sees him as inferior or childlike for having it.

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Hmm, ask her if she saw the movie "The Two Popes". Then talk about what an amazing talented, even brilliant actor Anthony Hopkins is and mention "he has Aspergers".

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Foo Fighter

Hey guys. Remember how I brought up my father in law's girlfriend? Well after her behavior on Christmas Eve I decided enough was enough and blocked her for good on Facebook. She was sticking her nose into when my husband and I would have children. She asked my husband and he did tell her something along the lines of hopefully someday soon. We found out we are expecting but I'm at five weeks and my husband and I decided to wait until February when I will hopefully be at 12 to 13 weeks to make the announcement. Anyway we go to see them on Christmas Eve and my nephew was playing a game were he bought a "baby". We joked about it and my FIL's gf comes between me and my husband and says "Don't you wish you could just buy a baby?" I gave her a look ( because WTF?) and my husband recovered for us. I decided to chalk my reaction up to hormones but it was embarrassing and unwarranted. Still my husband says Don't let it ruin the day and the rest of the day goes good. Laughing, eating some great brunch and watching my nephews play their strategy game. It was going good until we opened presents. One of the last ones my husband and I opened was bedsheets from you know who and his dad ( I don't think his dad had anything to do with what happened next but just explaining). FIL's gf announces in front of everyone my husband and I needed "Clean babymaking sheets." Remember that forced smile that the father from Corpse Bride gives when he is told to smile? That's what I looked like. My husband and I were thoroughly embarrassed but tried to play it off. I know this seems petty and maybe I am making a big deal but she crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. I do get it was a joke but it was hurtful and inappropriate. What if my husband and I were infertile? Or this pregnancy doesn't work out ( which I'm stressing out about allready)? Or if we simply decided not to have any? I told my husband I did not find her comments in any way funny, that I was sorry for being a stick in the mud or a drama queen but that joke crossed the line. Also I found out she potentially baited us with this as she asked my hubs for dimensions of the bed for bed sheets. Enough is enough. I have enough stress building a tiny human and I don't need her cracking offensive jokes or saying potentially harmful stuff. Yesterday I blocked her for good ( I was taking a break from her and I followed through on the "one more crack like that and I will block"). I thought I would feel better afterwards but I feel guilty. I feel like maybe I rushed to make that decision and maybe I am easily offended......that and this has the potential to start WWIII. But at the same time I don't want her sticking her nose into this pregnancy where it doesn't belong as she has shown she will do that. I'm sorry for the rant and all its just a mixed bag and I needed to vent.

I don't think that you were in the wrong for blocking her. She seem to nosy.

life goes on when people are blocked. good for you. life is also too short to deal with offensive people. be done with her. period. I block people who bother me all the time...facebook can be great, but also a nightmare. live your life.