I think I’m in a relationship with a compulsive liar.

So I think I’m in a relationship/common law married to a compulsive liar. So When I first met my significant other I just got out of a bad rough marriage with a Narcissist. Not right away but maybe two years after I got my divorce I met this new guy. When I first met him we had instant chemistry. We talked a lot over the phone before we actually met in person. Anyway. He told me when he met me I would be his wife. And he wanted to marry me that was a huge red flag. But I thought it was kind of a joke. He also has never been married before. He did get a tattoo on his ring finger of one of his ex that he has a kid with but he tattooed a tribal tattoo over that. Lol. Anyways his mom has told me he lies all the time as well. Well over this year that we have been together I’ve caught him in a a lot of lies. He lies all the time like over everything and anything. Really stupid things lol. Like why are you even lying ? And he can come up with a lie and I believe him because it sounds true. I don’t trust him I love him but I don’t trust him. He’s not horrible to me but lately we haven’t been getting along. We just argue. I’m just starting to wonder if I am in a relationship with someone who has Some type of a disorder as well. I’m starting to wonder if this is gonna work out. Idk 😐

A relationship without trust won’t do anything but cause unnecessary pain.. If you can lie about nothing you’ll lie about anything.. I’d suggest you guys have a heart to heart about it & try to come to a resolution.. If not just end things.

Your right it sucks bc he helps me so much and is good with my son and we connect but I can never actually trust him bc he is a compulsive liar. I wish he would just stop lying but he can’t he won’t.

If you have caught him in lies over and over again you should end it.

Sounds like he needs therapy but unless he’s willing to change....

I think you two need to sit down and have an open conversation where you tell him how you feel about all of this.

Despite the fact that my recent ex (12 years, a glorious daughter) is a major liar, I really don't know very much about it. I just know that she is capable of looking me straight in the eyes and lying to me, sometimes about very, very important things. She cheated muptiple times. Lied about that. On AND ON. Just so weird that she can do this and give it no thought.

Anyway, Despite all the agony she put me through, my own sick brain still chooses often to remember the good times and I still love her, probably, partly as a result of that.

So, I hear ya. I think you are in for a world of heartache with this dude. He's got serious issues and I don't believe they are easy to address, even if he wanted to--and he probably does not want to.

Take care of yourself and your child.

You’ve caught some lies but how far do they go? You can never trust a liar. Look out for yourself and get out.

We’ve been together for one year so far. He hasn’t cheated on me as far as I know. I just caught him talking to a few ppl on his phone but not sure if it was anything. He comes home all the time and wants to spend time with me all the time. So I don’t think he’s cheating. But i don’t trust him. I’m trying to. He lies about stupid things just all the time things that he shouldn’t. I don’t think compulsive liars can change. I do love him because he does a lot. He helps cook and clean and he helps with my son. I just get frustrated when he tells lies or stories. It’s hard to trust him.

What kind of advice are you looking for then? He won’t change and you can’t trust a liar, if he was talking to other women, he’s doing things behind your back.

People who lie a lot don't really have a true identity, don't know who they are and tend to not live in reality very well.

Found this and it does say the healthy thing to do is end the relationship.

The above quote is true, important to remember.

dang. That’s really sucky. I mean I didn’t go into the relationship wanting a liar for a partner. I just know now a year in this relationship he lies a lot. Now that I am attached and he’s living with me it’s hard to end things. I have literary tried to end things and he won’t leave. So there’s that. He comes back I guess I saw red flags early on I just waved them. But cool liars can’t be trusted so end it. Okay.

hi. my son has been involved with a chronic liar for over 10 years. they have a 2 year old daughter. she has not changed, in fact she has gotten worse and she is in her mid 30s. her lying goes hand in hand with cheating and living a lifestyle that is damaging to herself, her children and my son. but he has refused to leave her for reasons all his own, and he is miserable.

my advise: get out before you get sucked in any further.