What should i do?

What should i do? This is maybe a simple problem but its bothering me. Im always drinking coffee and usually will buy my grounded coffee and milk regularly. I will make it at home every morning. The thing is, my sister now without acknowledging me, will make her coffee using mine and use the milk more than what i would usually use. Its been a few days. Im still a student, and these things cost me a lot. It sadden me that she doesn’t even feel sorry or at least tell me she's using my coffee. Worse thing today i bought new milk box, and tonight after jog i found out it only left like a quarter coz she already pre made her coffee using tons of milk and store in fridge for her work tomorrow. I dont know how to properly talk to her about this mainly coz she’s the one paying my car loan and would give me 50 bucks every month. I totally feel suck and trying to just let it go coz i don’t to be such a bad brother. Maybe im just overthinking or a really stingy bad brother. Sorry if anyone feel this is stupid and childish.

Hi Kyle Fahd,

Welcome to the Forums. I'm Yaowen and am very pleased to meet you.

My English is not very good and but even if it was, I would not know how I would react if I was in the situation you describe. I can certainly identify with what you are feeling about all this as I would feel the same way if I was in your place.

I am so sorry this is all happening to you. It must be very upsetting.

Hopefully these Forums will prove helpful to you. So sorry that I was unable to be helpful with advice. I hope others here can be more helpful to you than I have.

I wish you only good things!

Hi Kyle, welcome to Psych Central. I can see how this is a challenge for you. It sounds like your sister feels entitled to take your things because she helps you with your car payments. It can be tricky when someone helps you like that if you need the help and yet they begin to think it's ok to invade your boundaries. Let that be a life lesson for you where you work on being more independent so you don't end up dealing with dynamic.

If you say something about this problem, you can end up not only paying for your own coffee but also for your car loan too. The only other thing I can think of is hiding your coffee in your room so she can't get to it. Yet, she will figure that out when you make coffee for yourself when the coffee runs out in the cabinet.

A lot depends on her personality too. Sometimes you can sit and talk about how you struggle to keep your coffee and milk supply and you do appreciate that she helps with your car payment, but you are a student and stuggle to afford the coffee and milk you buy for yourself too. Sometimes a person will be kind and see how you struggle and yet other times a person may take offense and throw what they do for you and that you should not complain too. Only you know your sister's nature and how she may react if you talk to her "calmly".

how much is the car payment? is it more then the coffee and milk? can you afford to pay it yourself?

pay for the coffee and milk. it's part of the joys of sharing housing. especially with someone who is sounding like they are helping you with a big chunk of your expenses.

since you know the supply as you buy it now will get used up, buy a little more. priorities. car loan & $50 are probably worth more to you the whining over coffee and milk.

my opinion, others may say otherwise.

If it's bothering you that much, I would talk to her about it. It sounds like you haven't done that yet.

Thank you so much everyone for the replies. I came to a conclusion that maybe I don’t need to be so stingy bout this little things as i myself know the struggle and problems she’s having. At least this is the only thing i can do for her. Grinding myself harder so i can be more independent. Thanks again for listening to my rant. Much appreciated

Glad we could be of help to you Kyle. Sometimes that's all a person needs is just to vent something out like that. That's what we are here for.