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Mar 29, 2020 at 10:23 PM
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So, in the last couple of years of my life I've been trying to find someone to be with but that is so hard. When I find someone merely okay, I somehow sabotage myself , looking for things I don't like about him and hating him for that. Or I try to stay like friends with benefits so there's no formalities and we can be together but not that close. Other thing I do is that when I feel things are getting serious, I run out of it.
I don't know what's wrong with me. Any help will be welcome 
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Mar 30, 2020 at 03:18 PM
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Thank you for posting this concern.
 I'm not a mental health professional. So I can only offer my personal opinion. What you describe suggests two things to me. One is the concept of emotional unavailability. And the other is attachment styles. So here are links to 5 articles, from PC's archives, that relate to these subjects:What is Commitment Phobia & Relationship Anxiety? Are You Emotionally Unavailable? Attachment-What's Your Style? | Dysfunction Interrupted What's My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter? | Happily Imperfect How to Change Your Attachment Style
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