[Rustyfinger]

Hi. I met this woman on a dating app. We were chatting through the same app for a while, and then we exchanged phone numbers. I was the one who always started the conversation, except for a couple of times. The first time, she sent me a screen cap of some cute thought that applied to us. The second time, she sent me a picture of the place where she works at. I told that it was nice, and she replied with an audio message, where she sounded so warm and happy. I really like her voice. She sounds so calm, and sometimes, really sweet.

We have been talking for a month or so. I told her that I like her, and that I wanted to go out with her, once the lockdown ends. She said yes, and that she felt the same about me.

Last time, she wanted to see some pictures of some work that I've been doing at home. I've sent some pics to her. Then, she replied with an audio message. She sounded happy for me, said that it was a nice job. I asked her a couple of questions, and she didn't reply until now (1 day).

I just don't know what to think. I tried to use this as an opportunity to grow, to let go of my anxiousness and fear of abandonment. Clearly, it didn't work, or it did...at least for a while. Everytime that I thought "She won't talk to me again", she replied...always. I know, she has a life, and so do I, but it makes no sense to me, not having some time to talk/chat, if you really like the other person. Maybe she is trying to tell me to not approach her again. At first, I felt angry for something that, I now think, it doesn't seem a logical reason at all. Then, I just felt sad. Maybe it was something that I said, or didn't said.

I decided to wait and see until Friday if she talks to me again, dispelling all my negative thoughts. If she doesn't, I'll send her a message asking if everything it's alright with "us", just to be done with the overthinking. I just wanted to ask for some advice, some common sense, which I know I lack.

[jnwalt]

I totally understand your feelings. I also had similar experience in my life and I came to a conclusion that if there is a connection between you, if she has an interest she will not disappear. however, maybe smth happened in her life and she cannot reply. Yeah, the best variant is just to wait a bit. And please do not disturb her by sending many messages. Women just don't like it.

I think you’ve forgotten that this person is still a stranger to you. The two of you have never met. In my opinion the best course of action here would be to set up a date and make it happen sooner or later. This should be your one and only goal since we can’t really tell who you’re dealing with via text or audio messages. A face-to-face session with her could be a game changer here. So until that day comes, my advice to you is to forget about any expectations, keep a cool head, and, no matter how difficult it is, leave the emotions out of this and be reasonable. You can do this. I wish you good luck.