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No one is judging you. and certainly no one is calling you stupid. You created a thread for what reason? To get permission or validation to date this person? Were you uncertain? People here have all pointed out red flags because there are many. The reason people are doing this is perhaps because they have been there and done that, and they/we are all trying to protect you from potential harm. You get so defensive on here though about it, that no one can possibly help you in any real way. You want to defend him against all signs of red flags and go about your business with him - so, by all means then --- do as you please. Again, no one is judging you for it and no one is criticizing you for it. Everyone here has been trying to support you in the way they know best. And when people see red flags, they are going to point them out to you. I only made a point of trying to get across -- don't move for someone whom you just met and met only once in person when you have other very important life goals to tackle. And yes, a non-profit is going to take years to develop, with a lot of attention, focus and time. Who is going to do your grant writing? How are you going to achieve that and get funds? If that's truly your big dream, then why would you go flit off back to Florida for someone you just met, instead of focusing on your goals and your dream? That's all I was personally saying. But if you think you can accomplish both, even while moving for someone out of state, then do it. I never said you cannot have a personal life while pursuing your goals. You just seem so willing to completely uproot yourself and your entire life so easily and quickly, that the concern is your life goals would suddenly go out the window because you're enmeshed in this person. It's not a rational decision. But you're so defensive on here that it makes it difficult to support you in any way that is truly helpful.
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I don’t understand this thread.
You’ve met a guy whom you consider wonderful, smart, funny, ambitious, great supervisor and perfect match for you or what other things you said. It’s great. He is so wonderful that you are all giddy and excited about him after one date and even want to build your life with him after meeting him once. It’s all good. If that’s what you want, who are we tell you otherwise. What I don’t understand why are you asking about him on anonymous forum of strangers? Especially if you already made up your mind? When I’ve met my now husband I and he both knew pretty quick (not after one date) that we are great together, and we are still great together 5 years later. The last thing I felt like doing is asking strangers if he is right for me. What do the strangers know? I don’t understand why you ask strangers if he is good for you and then get all upset if our opinion differs from yours . If you think he is a perfect match, then why are you asking us? We aren’t you. If he is a wonderful man, then go for it. |
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"Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; May 28, 2020 at 05:25 PM. |
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