Lost interest in men I date

Good evening,

This problem may look like something stupid but it's really getting me down.
I lose all interest I have in a man, something like two weeks after we start dating. It has always been like that. When I was 20, it was a kinda game. Just checking if I was able to date that cute guy, or the one every girl was looking for. It's normal not staying too long in a relationship when you are in your early twenties but now I am older and the situation has not changed. Once I have someone, I break up shortly after that. 3 years ago I let the relationship continue till the wedding proposal (he was not pleased when I broke up). I am with someone now and to avoid a bad break-up I askmy transfer to the other side of Europe.
Some of my friends think I am not the commitment type, and the others think I 've never been in love and that's all.
I think there is something more but don't know what. Can someone help me out? This is really driving me mad because I really want get married and have kids but can't see a way to achieve these goals.

your waiting....that's okay. People seem to believe that once your in your mid 20's it's time to settle down, marry, and reproduce. There's no need to rush into anything and be committed to nobody but yourself. If you plan on doing this sometime in the future anyway then don't worry about it. You probably know what you want in a partner and won't buckle down for anything less. I mean as long as your wants are reasonable, there's nothing wrong with that.

Don't let outside pressures rush you into anything. I wouldn't blame yourself neither, just be patient.

Welcome to PC!

Sounds like you are ready to figure out why long term relationships haven't been in the cards for you. Maybe sitting down and writing out "why" you broke off the relationships will help you to find some kind of a pattern to your behavior? It may even give you a good idea of what you are looking for in a relationship and just have not been finding it? It can also give you a sense of what kind of person you have been seeking out....are they ones who have something in their personalities that you find distasteful so you have no issues with breaking off the relationship? Maybe you are feeling a fear of commitment in some way that stops you from continuing with someone.

There could be many reasons as to why it hasn't worked out for you yet. I think that writing down each situation and taking stock in each one will help you figure out what's going on and where you need to put your energies (if any) in changing your perspective on relationships in general.

I am wishing you well. Keep posting....in doing so, you may find some growth and understanding of yourself and the process!

Take good care!


sabby