I took him back?

When I was in the 7th grade, my (current boyfriend) raped me. And after three years I forgave him and now were back together. everyone thinks im crazy. my mom,dad and best friend totally understand, but my close friends and other ppl in my family think its insane. Idk i have the feeling that it is. but i dont wanna loose him cause i mean we've tlked about it and were over that fact. we've grown alot closer than before. but yeah someone tell me what they think

KwalkingDisaster,

I am glad that you were able to get closure on the rape issue, that is really rare. I would really have a hard time trusting someone that has hurt me in that way. I wish you well, good luck!

May I ask? - How old the two of you were at the time of the rape?

Well hopefully you can lay the smack-down and make it clear to everyone who rejects the choice you've made. Cause quite honestly the past is not done unless they decide to shut up about it.

I think you're setting yourself up for trouble. If it happened once it's possible it can happen again. Rape is a control issue. I hope you will be able to work this out.

Ocean

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When I was in the 7th grade, my (current boyfriend) raped me. And after three years I forgave him and now were back together. everyone thinks im crazy. my mom,dad and best friend totally understand, but my close friends and other ppl in my family think its insane. Idk i have the feeling that it is. but i dont wanna loose him cause i mean we've tlked about it and were over that fact. we've grown alot closer than before. but yeah someone tell me what they think

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I think you're setting yourself up for trouble. If it happened once it's possible it can happen again.
Rape is a control issue.

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I agree with this statement to a certain point..... for while rape is often about control I have read stories where people have raped out of nothing more than the need or want of mere pleasure and as a young guy (middle school) I might consider (not condone) that his hormones got the best of him when the two of them were being intimate together and he had not yet learned enough to respect her as a female and a person............. what he did as a child should not define him as a man if he has truly learned and changed from that incident.

Now - I say this for I was not there personally when this event took place - therefore, I do not how far it had actually went between the two of them until he ejaculated....... was he already in the process of entering her when she decided this was not right at the moment (and as a young guy ready to pop at the site of a breast - he had an orgasm before he could stop it) or was it an all out rape - where they were along and he took advantage of the situation?

((( hugs ))) to all.

Well I thank everyone for their imput. Things are okay. Well I know where your comming from when you say im settin myself up for trouble. i know that and I told him Ihad trust issues with him, but we've both grown up

I really hope you will be okay. If you were raped by him the chances he may do it again are there. If you get scared or concerned listen to your instincts. Don't hesitate to call a rape hotline to talk this out with them too. Remember to love yourself and respect yourself!
Much Blessings
Ocean13

Thank you Ocean13. I know that I need to watch out, because it could happen again. Im taking everyone advice, and hes seeing a couselour now. I just hope things go okay