How to stop chasing :(

KBMK · Dec 11, 2020, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by overgiver88

Well, I couldn't handle this anymore so I called him to at least get my money back, he picked up and he said "What, hang up the damn phone so that I don't hang it in your face, don't you understand bulgarian, I have other things now I don't want to talk to you now, I don't have time for you, thanks for calling..." so yeah. And that is 2 weeks after we had a sort of a nice video chat. I guess you never really know someone. I blocked him and unfriended him. I hope I will not see him on TV soon or any news. I now have to battle the panic attacks I get when I am in a room full of people and the feeling of suffocation that goes with them. Never had panic attacks before I met him and went through this. I am beyond destroyed mentally, emotionally and even physically. I know this was the best thing to happen in long term but I really did not need this and I certainly don't feel like this is what I deserved. And that is person who is supposedly a face of a show and is relying on his image for clients. Nothing in this world will make me believe that reality tv is not just for views now that I've seen the utter idiots that are given money and fame and they treat others like this. Maybe I will never be the same, I don't know, but I am going through one of my most difficult times ever... And I consider myself strong person.
My friends are all so supportive, checking up on me, even organised a campaign to downvote his recipe videos on youtube which was so nice of them, I know it won't change much, but I felt supported which is what I needed really. I just need time, so much time.... I hope I can at least have some of my previous self back.

Sorry this happened to you. That is no way to talk to a person. I was sure he had objectified you (for some reason), and that just cements that belief..."other things"

Please take care of yourself, and spend time getting to know people who want to get to know the real you, and not just drag you into their twisted fantasies.
What an idiot (him)

divine1966 · Dec 11, 2020, 07:51 AM

I am sorry. He isn’t worth your time or energy and honestly you don’t even know him that well. What a jerk. Good riddance to this a-hole. Next time you meet a guy get to know him first. Don’t give them money and don’t sacrifice anything. Move slowly and keep your eyes open on how they behave. He is a user, it was obvious by his actions. Heal and move on. I am glad you have good friends

overgiver88 · Mar 08, 2021, 09:48 AM

ok, so 5 months into no contact with this person. Went through episodes of severe panic attacks, de-socialisation, total loss of confidence and stopping training. I've regained it almost all now, but it was intense few months of severe depression. Going to psychotherapy every week now. Just as NOT expected - he texted me the other day through another number on viber. Hey, how are you? And that was it. Needless to say, I am spiraling since to think about why he wants to chat. 5 days went, I've left him on seen. Not sure what to do, I did not expect him and I blocked him on all known platforms, the only way I knew it was him was the pic that popped up and his name and way of typing.... I do not want to go back to that dark place, I barely LITERALLY got out of there alive....

Mar 08, 2021, 10:23 AM

Your topic here is probably the most disturbing thing I've read in quite a while. I honestly believe you should think about theraphy. There is no man in this universe who deserves that much attention and effort. Not to mention the breakup situation. It's very unhealthy and it harmed you. Think about theraphy to control these stuffs. Best of luck.

overgiver88 · Mar 08, 2021, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by MisterPaul

Your topic here is probably the most disturbing thing I've read in quite a while. I honestly believe you should think about theraphy. There is no man in this universe who deserves that much attention and effort. Not to mention the breakup situation. It's very unhealthy and it harmed you. Think about theraphy to control these stuffs. Best of luck.

Thank you! I am in theraphy, my therapist said she rarely sees people find the resources to build themselves from the place I was to where I am now. Almost never. And I know what it took me. Almost everything. And now I am ok, no panic attacks, but hell I am not letting that fool back again. He destroyed me, my therapist wanted me to go to seek medical help (antidepressants), but I refused. And what do you know, I survived. And I am back on the pole, training, gained my strenght back, preparing for a championship, earned myself a promotion at work and am happy and he NOW decides to ping me hey how are you as if he almost didn't make me kill myself. There are people like this out there and they are the faces of reality shows, news etc or just the barista next door, it doesn't matter....

Bill3 · Mar 08, 2021, 11:51 AM

You have blocked him so he cannot contact you again in any way?

sarahsweets · Mar 08, 2021, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Bill3

You have blocked him so he cannot contact you again in any way?

Yes I’m misunderstanding how he got through your blocks but if he did block him on that too

overgiver88 · Mar 08, 2021, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Yes I’m misunderstanding how he got through your blocks but if he did block him on that too

I think I added he used another number to get in touch with me on viber but his pic popped up as well as his name (you add your own name in viber) and style of writing I cannot mistake.

Bill3 · Mar 08, 2021, 12:35 PM

And you have blocked that new number?

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