Public record of our relationship

I hear what you’re saying and I’ll repeat that we brought out the worst in each other. I’m seeing that happen again with the boyfriend, which indicates to me that I need to work on myself . I tend to be attracted to men with control issues which both the boyfriend and the ex fiancé have/had. The boyfriend is even more frustrating then the ex fiancé because the boyfriend is passive while at least the ex fiancé was direct. I’ve been told by all three of the men in my life : ex husband, ex fiancé, boyfriend that I’m verbally abusive, either directly or indirectly . This of course comes after much time of me pleading with them to change their toxic behavior that is detrimental to me . I should really start another thread to sort out my issues as this one is getting messy .

Control issues hm. Are you more like a free spirit type?

Control issues, that’s others observations. I’m creative, an artist, if that’s what you mean.

Yeah, so maybe avoid men who tend to be control freaks? Maybe that's the issue with the pattern.

Lol if I find out they are

Oh then maybe it would help investigating this more closely, as far as it's a pattern for you, so you can recognise these types of people more quickly. To me it sounds like it could help, especially if other people notice this issue faster than you.

I didn’t say other people notice the issue faster. Right now we’re talking about the boyfriend not the fiancé so I should start a separate thread, no? People who knew the boyfriend before I did told me the boyfriend had control issues. So if I start a separate thread for the control issues of the boyfriend, will you respond there?

Oh I thought you were trying to say that but I read that wrong then. As for the new thread, sure,I can try and comment in there. Hopefully others will contribute too.