Having the mentality that no one really cares even if they ask about your life

What you want is not necessarily what the other person wants. To give or to get. It can get very complicated. Its not one thing, one item of attention, handed back and forth. Its you do something they want, they do something you want.

Otherwise you have to wait until you are an old guy and you just meet the same bunch of other old guys for coffee at mcdonalds every morning.

This is why god invented sex. It makes you think you have something in common.

Dont mind me, im old but i was cynical when i was younger too.

It sounds like you don’t like high maintenance people.

In terms of expectations it’s true they lower our serenity.

Expectations are healthy in a committed relationship and normal, to my understanding, however I don’t think you’re talking about committed relationships.

Yeah I know not everyone's needs are the same which makes everyone unique.

Yeah I agree and yeah it's really not about committed relationships. More of just people asking things about you or asking how you are in general even though there's a very good chance that they genuinely don't give a crap. The way I see it, if they truly care, then they will make the effort to get to know you and it won't come off as nosey or them wanting to gossip, even though that can be the case at times.

What does it matter if people ask or not? They are just small talk or being friendly. In what context do you know these people?

Nobody cares how I am doing. They are asking out of politeness so I give them the sketchiest outline before I turn the spotlight on them. If they are genuinely interested they have the option of asking more questions. I keep an open body language. If they show no further interest, I don't hold it against them or judge them. I don’t show much interest in others' lives either. Maybe we can have a deep and meaningful about a specific topic. But generally asking about each other is more about social nicety than genuine interest, in my humble opinion. I do respect contrary opinions, though.

I didn’t mean to make it sound like I’m bothered, this mentality doesn’t bother me at all. This was just a general question on whether others felt the same way and had the same mentality.

I absolutely agree with you and I’m the same way. I’ve been taught that people genuinely don’t care and only ask out of politeness. I agree that if they genuinely care then they will ask more questions, but even then some people may be just nosey and looking for reasons to gossip. But otherwise, I give them the bare basics and put the spotlight on them as well. I know it sounds harsh and I learned the hard way, but not everyone who asks, even friends or family, about how you are or what you are doing in your life, truly cares all the time.