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Old Aug 08, 2021, 10:43 AM
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I’m confident but not confident. He’s been unfaithful once. Not physically but emotionally. He is at present earning back my trust. I do trust he won’t be unfaithful again, but contact between he and his ex is just too much for me to bare. I don’t trust her intentions and I could see him potentially leaning on her regarding any issues in our marriage. The potential for her to become a rift between us too great.
Ok, I understand why you feel uneasy. I would feel the same in your situation. It is nice that you explained your point of view to your husband. I'm sure he will understand and not put you through this situation again. Only he can keep his ex at arm's length and not let her come between the two of you. I am sending you lots of good vibes and rooting for your marriage.
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Old Aug 08, 2021, 01:42 PM
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Ok, I understand why you feel uneasy. I would feel the same in your situation. It is nice that you explained your point of view to your husband. I'm sure he will understand and not put you through this situation again. Only he can keep his ex at arm's length and not let her come between the two of you. I am sending you lots of good vibes and rooting for your marriage.
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Old Aug 09, 2021, 12:18 AM
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This contact from the ex-wife is 100% totally inappropriate. She's trying to hold on to him, in whatever fashion she can. You are justified in not trusting her.

Tell your husband to cut the cord. She is probably going to milk this cancer recurrance for all the attention she can get out of it. Her situation is sad, but clinging to an ex-husband is not the solution.
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Old Aug 09, 2021, 06:19 AM
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This contact from the ex-wife is 100% totally inappropriate. She's trying to hold on to him, in whatever fashion she can. You are justified in not trusting her.

Tell your husband to cut the cord. She is probably going to milk this cancer recurrance for all the attention she can get out of it. Her situation is sad, but clinging to an ex-husband is not the solution.
Thanks @Rose76, and I agree with you wholeheartedly! My husband denies that she is trying to hold onto him. She has a first ex husband, with whom she used to still speak while she was married to my husband. Whatever the case may be, I still think she's holding onto him and very inappropriately - maybe it's poor boundaries, or maybe it's something more. At least my husband is honoring my wishes and agreed to keep her blocked - thank goodness. If he didn't agree to this, then we'd have a serious problem. And he and I are trying to patch things up right now - the last thing we need is a third party involved.
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Some thing I wanted to mention is just because she has cancer another bout or new cancer or whatever does not mean she gets to get her claws into your husband.

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Old Aug 10, 2021, 07:19 PM
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Some thing I wanted to mention is just because she has cancer another bout or new cancer or whatever does not mean she gets to get her claws into your husband.

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Thank you, and i agree!!
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Old Aug 10, 2021, 07:23 PM
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What you should do if he goes over there again is go with him. Hug him in front of her or slap his bum, get him to give you a kiss and see how she reacts. Just say the reason you are with him is 2 people can get more done than one. If he has to go again after that then make sure you always go with him. If you can't go for any reason then he cancels it. Or he can just block her.

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Old Aug 11, 2021, 05:57 AM
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What you should do if he goes over there again is go with him. Hug him in front of her or slap his bum, get him to give you a kiss and see how she reacts. Just say the reason you are with him is 2 people can get more done than one. If he has to go again after that then make sure you always go with him. If you can't go for any reason then he cancels it. Or he can just block her.

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LOL.... I don't think he will be going over to her place again, but that made me laugh.
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