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The background and the fact that HaveHope is her daughter-in-law count more, in my opinion.
Not all behaviours respond to a health conditions.
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Her dementia IS a factor to consider - yes. But that being said, apparently she has made these kinds of comments all her life.
Apparently, she realized on her own this morning what she had said wrong and apologized to my husband for it. So, there's that at least. Just one more dinner to get through with her. Let's hope it's without incident, but I highly doubt it. I am looking forward to her leaving and to getting our lives back.
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#54
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Thanks @Buffy01! ![]() ![]() LOL, those are pretty funny comebacks. I wish I had a good comeback when it happens. It takes me by surprise, each and every time, and I freeze up. Covid sucks. There's no way around that.
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It’s really difficult to come back with a clever answer in the moment so don’t be too hard on yourself, it sounds like she’s a pro at the barbed comments and can hit the spot. It’s natural to freeze when someone does this, also I would imagine you’ll be on your guard with her waiting for the next remark.
I did once read a good response to such comments “Did you mean that to be as hurtful as it sounded?” it puts the ball back in their court, addresses the issue but doesn’t go down to their level. Whether you feel that’d be appropriate or not I don’t know. |
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I have just one more dinner tonight to get through, and then she leaves tomorrow. Maybe I'll say something along the lines of what you suggest, if it happens again. And, I am sure it will. It's been the pattern so far.
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I'm having terrible fantasies of saying mean things back to her. I know I have to take the high road, but I literally cannot take another hurtful comment from her.
Just one more night.
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So, we got through our last dinner without another hurtful incident. However, his mother likes to make up her own names, including what she calls ME. A nickname I have is "Mo", so she calls me "Mono". My husband has told her that this is a disease and has corrected her more than once, but she insists on calling me by this nickname. It's a bit insulting, and I don't get why she continues when she knows it's wrong. One of our cat's names is Buttercup, but his mom calls her Cupcake instead.
I am glad she's gone. Apparently, after she returned to California she peed in her bed. She called my husband yesterday distraught and crying telling him that her daughter-in-law is fed up with her. She cried, saying she doesn't belong there. She really belongs in Assisted Living, but she cannot afford it. I am SO glad that she cannot live with us. It's impossible.
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Whatever happened with their money? House they lived in? Florida? Anything left after her husband died? I never thought they were destitute. That’s scary. It’s too expensive to be old in the US
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And apparently, this daughter-in-law screwed up on a million dollar insurance policy that my husband's mother and father had. Now, don't ask me why the daughter-in-law was placed in charge of paying for this policy each month because I do not know why, but she missed a few payments and the policy was canceled. So she majorly screwed up.
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The bottom line is: She is miserable and she wants everyone around her to feel the same way. "Misery loves company."
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I agree. I believe this is exactly what she does.
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