How should. I act with a new friend who’s dealing with a sick & dying family member?

I recently met a lady I kind of cluck wirh a few months ago. Her uncle was told by his Dr. that he only has another month to live. She’s his only family aside from her mom. He has one friend who looked after him, but she is gettung tired of that.

My friend had to take care of him despite having her iwn health issues . She is going through a lot now & has lost her job on top of that.

And she keeps on having issues with her flaky b.f too. I tried to support her & I’m always asking her how her uncle is doing.

I haven’t seen her in awhile until last week when I took her out to a show as an early birthday present. She’s ignored my Instagram messages for the last few days & my text.

She’s always online posting comments & videos, so it hurts to be ignored.

Should I say anything to her or not? Do I give her space? Am I being an unintentional pest by trying to contact her to see what’s going on?

Also, she kept texting me late at night weeks ago to talk & I said that my husband is trying to sleep. I did this a few times then she stopped texting me. She’d say goodnight with an exclamation point.

Could she be mad that I wasn’t able to support her whenever she needed me?

I’m also going through this with teo other women I recently met. One of them. told me that she was asking her friends for space.

I feel like I’m being a pest just for trying to care or unsupportive for having boundaries.

What should I do? Why woukd my friend ignore me sll of a sudden?

Hi @jesyka,

It's hard to know what's on your friend's mind without asking her.

Clearly she is going through a lot.

I'd reach out to her via text or email to let her know that you're thinking of her and she can contact you if she's up to it, but then I'd leave the ball in her court and give her space.

You have a right to have boundaries. It sounds like this woman has a lot on her plate and is probably on the self absorbed side. You can only do so much when someone is like this, you cannot fix any of her problems and can only provide her with someone who can listen from time to time as she tries to navigate these challenges.

Thanks, I won’t say anything until she does then. She’s acting stranger than usual by posting stuff up everyday & yet ignoring my kind supportive message, weird!

Thanks, I sure do. Maybe she was upset that I wasn’t abke to be her on call ‘therapist’, who knows? She is a very self absorbed person. It’s very annoying!

I think I might keep her around just to go out with as we like similar types of music. She’s also into makeup & hair. If she tries to dump her problem s on me though, I’ll say I’m ‘busy’. Friendships shouldn’t be one sided.

She should at least ask me how I’m doing sometimes. Maybe she has no idea of how to behave with healthier more functional people as all of her former friends were really messed up.

So is her b.f, herself, & everyone who she knows. She was to nice to her ex psycho roomate. I think that nice means sucker to some people, ugh.