[jesyka]

I’m a caregiver. I had the same client, an adult female for about 4 months now. I did like her as a person, but she was difficult for me to deal with at times.

I’m upset because she had nothing but negative things to tell my manager. Now that manager seems like they don’t like me now.

They’re friendly with each other. My client is autistic & she also has ADHD too.

We usually got along OK. This lady was friendly & she seemed to care about me & my life at first.

I should’ve known better than to trust her with personal information as she is the biggest gossip that I’ve ever met.

She tells everyone almost everything that you tell her. She told me about a very traumatic experience that her friend had as a child. He was not happy about that when she revealed to him what she told me.

Anyways, her & the other managers decided that I would be a better fit with another client to our personality clash.

I’m upset because she didn’t say anything to me. The change was made without talking to me at all. Now I’m feeling better because my new client is a lot better. She’s quiet, not gossipy, not super nosy, not loud, doesn’t talk to herself like the other lady did & she seems mire respectful in general so far.

My old client would interrupt me at times, tell me that she thinks that I’m autistic, paranoid for being cautious, tell me what to do with my money, tell me that I shouldn’t be eating or drinking this or that, etc…

She was bossy. Despite all of that she still had some good qualities. She did think of letting me go before since she didn’t like the fact that I accidentally put the wrong containers in the recycling bin, that I don’t park or drive good according to her, that I talked about some issues of mine (she asked me about myself though at first), and that I missed a few spots when washing the dishes too.

She seemed to like me but then she did awful things like kick me out of her apartment for supposedly ‘judging’ her. She screamed at me to get out.

I told the manager what happened & she acted like it was no big deal as she’s autistic & that I should understand that. She said that she’d talk to her but she definitely didn’t talk to her. I asked her about that & she said that she didn’t talk to her.

So from now on I lnow that unless a client gets physical with me maybe, that this manager won’t do anything about things.

Another time she shut down & threatened to complain about me to management when dome lady almost hit us in a parking lot.

She didn’t like the fact that I got upset. For someone who claims to be a caring people person, that was surprising.

She is very sensitive to people yelling or judging her or telling her what to do as her parents yelled at her a lot growing up & she was constantly criticized by her parents too, especially her mom.

Why would the manager have this kind of attitude? I understand that she’s autistic & that she has issues, but my feelings matter too.

I won’t report anymore bad behavior like this if this happens with another client as it’ll obviously be ‘my fault’ no matter what or that I need to accept that behavior due to the clients autism issues.

I feel like she knows that she can get away with her bad behaviour which isn’t right. She did apologize to me the next day for kicking me out.

But then she yelled at me again to not talk the other day before we went out. She was very stressed out.

So I said nothing. That was very rude. I’m so glad that she is no longer my client.

She told one manager inappropriate non work related personal stuff about me & that I had ‘anger issues’ due to getting annoyed at bad drivers, ugh.

I was to open & to honest with her & she betrayed my trust. My manager complained about me oversharing & that she’s not my friend.

I thought that I was connecting with her as we had similar life experiences with being bullied, our weight, etc…

Now this manager thinks that I take things to personally she said. Ugh.

I definitely won’t be open with anymore clients.

[Yaowen]

I am so sorry that happened to you. That lady sounds like a real cross to bear. I don't know how much her condition affected her character, but I think she treated you horribly. Your manager seems like a burden too. Wish I knew what to say to help.

So sorry again for what happened to you. Care givers are people who I greatly, greatly admire. I may need one someday as I am almost 70 years old. Wish I could make those bad experiences you had go away. My heart goes out to you.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

I am so sorry that happened to you. That lady sounds like a real cross to bear. I don't know how much her condition affected her character, but I think she treated you horribly. Your manager seems like a burden too. Wish I knew what to say to help.

So sorry again for what happened to you. Care givers are people who I greatly, greatly admire. I may need one someday as I am almost 70 years old. Wish I could make those bad experiences you had go away. My heart goes out to you.

Thanks. My bff thinks that lady was playing mind games with me & to not take things personally as she has mental health issues.

The manager is friendly with her. I doubt that the manager will take any action if a client is abusive to me as she told me that lady wasn’t being abusive.

She said that she’s autistic as if that excused her bad behavior, ugh. The new client is nicer, not nosy, respectful, quiet & calmer.

Hopefully I will never need a care giver. IIf both of us ever end up needing one, then hopefully we’ll both end up with a nice care giver.

Thanks for your kind words