[BoosterBottle]

I have loved sex and sexual activities since 8th grade and I feel that it is getting to me now. Masturbation has become an activity for me everyday at least two times and sometimes eight when I am bored or at the house by myself. My girlfriend and I are very sexual and we fool around a lot. Disregarding her, I've been like this for about four years now and its gotten to the point where I'll masturbate even though I know it might not feel good. I act very quickly on my urge when I am horney. Just the other day I was watching soccer on t.v. and out of no where I became very horney. It's hard to resist sex or masturbation when I am horney. How can I control my urges or even control being horney?

[jennie]

the following recovery link has several good pages to help point you in the right direction:
SA recovery see the very useful links on accountability & find a counselor on the left of the screen.

with any compulsion, first we have to evaluate our perceptions of the behavior and try changing that first. you have started already by posting this question about sexual addiction. how do you control your urges? i don't know. everyone has their own methods at changing behavior. i personally don't think there is anything wrong with urges; we are human. i think what is important is that we act appropriately with our urges and that our behaviors don't interfere with our life/relationships. one thing that concerns me is you mentioned that you might continue to masterbate even though it doesn't feel good. to me, that seems contradictory to what masterbation is supposed to be about in the first place...pleasure. maybe by attending a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting, it might help you find your own answers. i wish you the best!