why do people not tell me what they think?

hmm
if you tell me you dont like me then i will go away.
if you tell me you like me i wont.
if you tell me you like me or give me that impression, and then go and tell someone else that im an attention seeking *****, i get very annoyed. if you talk about me behind my back i hold that as cowardice.

how hard is it honestly, to be nice to each other? i dontthink ive done anything wrong on purpose. im sorry if u dont like who i am but thats who i am and nothings gonna change.
ive spent 14 yrs trying to change myself into someone that people like and it doesnt work so i quit. if you dont like me and feel the need to say so, say it to ME.

done now.

((((selfy))))

I hope your ok hun. People can be selfish and cowardly

babyg xXx

Learned this secret by the time I was 25, has helped me in every aspect of my life since then:

IF YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE, LOVE YOURSELF AND LIKE WHO YOU ARE, WHO THE HELL CARES WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS?

You have to look yourself in the mirror everyday, not anyone else. If you've changed (or are working at changing) the things about yourself that you don't like, have accepted and acknowledged the good and bad within your personality, and live by The Golden Rule (treat others as you wish to be treated), does it really matter what people have to say about you, to your face or behind your back?

You can't please all of the people all of the time...and why the hell would you want to??!!!

(((((((((dot))))))))))
I love you and I really hope you feel better. Please rant at me if you need to.

(((hi selfy)))

not everyone we meet is at the same place as we may be. honesty is such a value - as is loyalty, and they seem to go hand in hand. a practice for many as not everyone had these values instilled in them from early years, you know?

I feel lucky in this life that there is even one honest to goodness person in my life at any given time - who says exactly what is on their mind - that takes courage to me.

the more open and honest I have learned to be with myself and others, the less I am disappointed in others in this regard because they have to learn at their own pace - and I realize that I might not want to 'cast my pearls' or cache out there to just anyone, up close and personal, and when I do, I realize it is a risk, and can disappoint... so allow for some nonsense, and be pleasantly surprised at the gems that sparkle for all the right reasons, along your journey!

peace and love,
nightbird

I you for you Dot!

I don't know you, but obviously you are loved here. I basically avoid people to keep myself safe fom criticism. I was chased away from this site about a year ago by a fellow who commented after every one of my posts with a sarcastic remark & I'm a middle-aged nice (I think) woman who happens to have bipolar who came here to receive support & give support so I left for a year & am now just venturing back. I told the mods & I guess he was bothering other people, too.

But, I withdraw. I really don't want people to honestly tell me they hate me. M husband told me 1 1/2 years ago that he no longer found me sexually attractive due to the weight I had gained on my psych meds so I attempted suicide with an OD--still shaky after that (bipolar I). So for me, honesty, is really scary & actually should be avoided at all costs-Suzy

that sucks suzy! they were mean. hm. they deserve to be told off.
your husband was a butthead. i withdraw a bit. its really not good but im too sensitive to criticism to do anythnig otherwise. but i get the impression people are onlynice to me so their friends dont get mad because they hate me or something like that, i mean, erg. never mind. tra laa laa

Suzy5654 and selfy: I am so sorry honesty is hard for you, and that other people can hurt you with their words (especially strangers), no one deserves that.

This community, this forum has helped me hold on to my self respect and self love during some very difficult times, and I am so very grateful for the support I receive here (sometimes I really don't know what I'd do without it but cry!). I hope this "safe place" can be a shelter for you also.

You are valued and you are loved...and you deserve to be both!!!

((( Dot )))


I hope you never think that I don't like you and I know you are very loved on this site. I hope you feel better soon and that people are more honest with you.

(((((Selfy))))) Some people are going to be mean no matter what you do, don't let them worry you.

Love yourself for who you are and don't try to be someone you're not. In the end you won't be happy because you're doing it just to please others.

Best of luck!

(((((((((((((( selfy ))))))))))))))