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Since I'm still learning a lot of things, I want to ask you guys if I'm not quite on base about something.
Fact: I'm dating a guy. Fact: we've been dating for about two weeks. Fact: he's been divorced for over two years. Fact: he and his ex get along OK still 'cause they've got kids. Fact. He hasn't told her about me yet. Thought: I'm not worth mentioning. Thought: he still loves her and wants her back. Thought: he's probably still screwing her. Thought: he's just playing me. Thought: it's all a f%&$ing lie. I think I'm overreacting a little bit. I have NO evidence for ANY of those thoughts, and when we talk about those things, he says quite the opposite. His actions don't match my fears, either. A couple of weeks may really be too soon to bring another relationship into the fray. After a couple of weeks, is it really a realtionship? I'm confused and my head hurts. I think I'm just being paranoid, but paranoia seems more real than reality sometimes. I think I'm headed in a downswing with my cyclothymia, too. I don't want to freak out over something that really isn't a big deal, but I don't want to follow blindly and get played again. And I don't understand...I'm scared. I hope I'm just making all the bad stuff up.
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Its normal to have worries about it, especially if you have only been dating for two weeks!... why dont you just talk to him about it? If you feel its too early, then I advise you not to worry and not to make a big deal out of things, and see where it leads... if he's dating you, he must like you
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So it's kinda normal to feel a little unsure this early?
I just have had SO many problems with insecurity and jealousy in the past, and I don't want him to know that I'm freaking out already. You think I really could talk to him about this?
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maybe he feels it's none of her business who he dates, don't over react, enjoy the dating
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I'm tryin'.
I just wish...If I were REALLY important, he'd tell everybody about me. I mean, maybe this is healthy, but it's not very comfortable. Maybe I'm just used to guys who fall head over heels after date one. I know that doesn't work out usually, but then I KNOW they love me. Maybe I shouldn't want someone to love me. I'm probably asking for too much right now...I haven't dated in a really long time and I really like this guy. I just don't want to chase him away. But I feel so needy. So...If he DOES like me, then I should just relax 'cause things are cool?
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It sounds to me as though this is more about you and how you feel about your self over all - and how you often wonder / doubt the love of the ones in your life.
What do YOU think? - is dating this guy resonating old unhealed wounds in you - those which other created. (((( HUGS )))) ~ (((( HUGS )))) |
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Kendyll, sweetie, after reading your posts, all I could think was "love yourself first, and he will follow!". That and "slow down!". Love means such different things to different people, and you're right, you might scare him if he knows you're feeling this intense this soon.
That being said, I know how it is to feel such a rush of emotion for someone early on. I forced myself to take a step back, concentrate on other things for a bit, and you know what, his feelings caught up to mine in a few short weeks! Everything happens for a reason, and when it's supposed to, I learned the hard way that if you try to force love, it NEVER works. Good luck to you doll, and enjoy the getting to know each other part. To me, meeting someone new has always been like reading a new book that has infinite possibilies for story lines, plot twists and happy endings! |
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