My Dad Hates Me

For the longest time I idolized my dad...he could do no wrong. Yes, he was a wonderful father but in the past years or so he's gone from a man who would never speak harshly about anyone or rarely had ill feelings to a man who I don't even know. A man who is the first to put someone down or make fun of them. Where did the man I so dearly loved go to?

The other day I told my dad I missed the person he used to be and that he has changed completely. He denies this and puts the blame on me, saying I'm the one who has changed. He said he will no longer speak to anyone ever again if nobody likes what he has to say. But quite honestly the silence and tension between us is killing me.

I can't undo or unsay what I have said...and I didn't even do it in a mean or harsh way...I just said I missed my dad. I just can't stand sitting in the room with him when he constantly is saying how worthless women are and that they can't do anything right. And last weekend in a group of my friends, he convinced them that all I do is sit on my *** and do nothing at all. But I'm the one that cooks the meals, cleans the house, does the laundry, and then does anything he wants me to. I love my father but I can't stand the constant criticism and badgering. I want my dad back.

Im sorry there is tension between you too, Im sorry you are going through this pain.

((((((((((((( TaintedGoth )))))))))))))

Somebody just kill me now!!!!

He isn't talking. He always watches sports day and night...and since I said anything to him he hasn't even turned on the tv! He just sits up there and has been sleeping almost all of his time home! And I go up there to the livingroom and he doesn't even have a single light on!

What have I done????

TaintedGoth1 is it possible that he's suffereing from depression? That may account for the personality change.

I know that there is an adjustment in the relationship with your children as they become adults. As a parent, you still see them as your baby, no matter how old they are.

(((((((((((((((( TaintedGoth ))))))))))))))))

He's talking to me today...I am so happy!!!!

It certainly isnt normal to sit in a room with no lights on and it most definatly is NOTHING to do with you or what you have done to him, there is somthing wrong with the poor man by the sounds of it and maybe it would help if he saw a Dr.

Dont take it on as your fault cos it sounds more like depression to me rather than annoyed at a child.

Hugs and I truly hope things settle down in your house with you and your dad.