[iamtwilight]

my ex rommaate. she was my friend for 2 or 3 years. she became my best friend in maybe 2006. i left my former best friend in dec 2006 because i thought she was worse than my roommate. moved in with her in 03/2007.

she had been using drugs, abusing meds, giving me meds that hadn't been prescribed to me (and me foolishly talking them because i didn't know about the allergic reactions that it can cause9, forcing me to use drugs, told me stuff like she wanted to kill herself and she was going to hurt herself but begged me not to call the hospital......

when i moved in with with her she told me she had stopped using drugs, but when i got out of the hospital (suicide attempt... mostly because of i felt i was trapped with her) i found a stash of ecstasy in the pantry and i decided to leave. moved out in 09/2007, i stopped talking to her in october 2007 because she had taken me out with some of her new friends, and they were also from the psych ward where she had been, and this one guy went to get bullets for her gun, was prolly a drug dealer, and stuff....

i told my sister and she told me to cease contact with her immediately because she was seriously disturbing my own recovery. and i did. i haven't talked to her since october 6th. she sent me very angry messages for maybe two or three months, i changed my number, dropped all of our mutual friends. which is a shame because now i have only a few friends but it doesn't matter.

if i had told her that i needed to recover, she would have told me i was a martyr. she often called me that without me exactly knowing why. i also started dating my current partner around when she broke up with hers and she didn't even know why she broke up. then she accused me of talking too much about my bf, though i mentioned him only when we met, which was maybe 3 times a month back then.

and she woke me up in the middle of the night because she had just had sex with her boss (married w/ kids) and felt bad. and i couldn't talk about anything. she wanted me to be with a married man so i could feel the way she does. so i could feel how it feels to be in an affair.

all that ridiculous stuff.

i just don't think i have to stand it. it makes me feel bad. i don't ever want a friend like that..

and now.... last night, yes in the middle of the night, she sent my dad a text, asking me where i had gone?

WHERE I HAD GONE?? away from her life obviously!

does she seriously think i want to be with her after six months of not talking to her? after changing my number so she could not contact me? after not even talking to any of our mutual friends? it clearly looks like i have changed my circle of friends.

she knew i was quitting our friendship. she told me she hated me, and she knew it was over.

i don't know what i can tell my dad to say to her, without giving her the wrong impression. dad suggested he would send hera text saying i want to be alone. but then it leaves her hoping one day i might come back.

but i'm not. i'm never coming back.

How can she force you to take drugs ?

I would tell your dad to NOT reply to just ignore it as if you reply you will be giving her what she wants which is contact.

[vetswife]

I agree, I do think ignoring could work, but if she doesn't let up or continues to contact your Dad or anyone else in your family...

I think YOU need to tell her...

"leave me alone, please do not contact me or my family".

You could also add "good luck with the rest of your life" or something like that, but I think you should keep it short so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

If she continues to try to contact you, you could threaten to get a restraining order which would forbid her to contact you and also to contact you through anyone else (that's how it is here in the states, I don't know if the same rules apply in Finland).

I do think you should be the one to tell her, by text, e-mail or snail mail, I wouldn't use the phone.

The best of luck to you!

[iamtwilight]

tishie.. i would rather not go into detail but, according to what i know, holding someone down and injecting them with a substance is forcing. she and a few of her friends, however, told me she was trying to convince me it was fun and an okay activity and that i would embarrass her if i did not take anything in that company. and resistance often leads to problems....

vetswife, i've sent her a text saying there is no use in contacting me because our friendship is over. i wouldn't use the phone either, she always starts to cry and that is my weak point. i would get a restraining order if i wasn't leaving out of country in about a month.

better try hanging on until that...

i'm not even going out because of this this is only feeding the psychotic thoughts

I would try your hardest not to let it get to you, if she contacts you again go to the police as this is harrasment.

Go out anyway and try to have some fun.

Easier said than done I know.

[webbie]

i would suggest that your family gives her no information about you..this is not a true friend if she is acting this way...but also you shouldn't just sit in the house either..do try to go out with people that are good for you...tc...

[iamtwilight]

thanks everyone. i just decided to go over to my boyfriend's house. but i'm doing it in the wrong way, i told my parents i would not go if they don't want me to take me to the train station.

they shouldn't do it. they shouldn't let me have these demands. but i take comfort in the fact that mom has some business to do over there and that justifies the whole thing.

anyway.. thanks for your input, each and every one of you. it's been helpful talking about this. =)