[tat2doc]

How do you deal with someone who always sees the negative side of things and thinks they're always right?

[RozG]

Hi

Have you tried going to counselling together as a couple?

[tat2doc]

I went for my first session this past saturday & asked her if she would come along. Long story short, she didn't. But I will ask her again when the counselor thinks it would be the right time.

[RozG]

Good luck!

[Rhapsody]

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How do you deal with someone who always sees the negative side of things and thinks they're always right?

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I personally try my best to point out them the good side of things / life (if there is one) and I remind them how my cup is half full...... never empty.

Some times you even have to go as far as keeping a journal of their negative behavior and show it to them after a few months.
Recording them being negative is a good way to go as well - then play the tape back for them.

And if all else fails (as it will at times)...... learn to take deep breathes when they get the best of you.

Over all the best way to deal with a person like this is let your own life / words do the talking for you..... be a role model.

[DavidStrong]

Model the behavior you hope to bring out. One problem I believe can be important is that the other person may not know or understand how to respond your request. I think this often causes resistance. Simply modeling behaviors may be a non-confrontational, yet effective way to help her along.

[Irine]

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GOOD Idea
never thought of it
the recording thing sound fun, too

[StarPonysMama]

I don't have a significant other like this but, my mom is like this. Totally negative. And, her perception of everything is "right" in her eyes.

Here lately I've learned to take a deep breath and kind of tune her out when she says things I don't agree with or are totally negative. I am not sure that would at all be a healthy way to deal with a significant other though.

I've also pointed out to her the positive side of things at times or just said, "Everything happens for a reason", or "Did you think of it this way".

I find her negativity to sometimes be draining on my positive nature. I totally empathize with you and hope that your T can help resolve the problem. Kudos to you for asking for help. Thats a grand step on your part.

[mandazzle]

Hey that sounds like my mom!

[Malachite]

I really don't think you can, other than making your own independent choices, and allowing them to have their way. The other option, the one I am entertaining, i.e., in my situation, is, to not deal with them at all.