I have this friend

I have this friend in her 20's that just drives me bonkers. She is so focused on getting a man and that is all she talks about. She is about to move to San Antonio and thinks maybe that is where her man is. Then when she mets someone one she immediately thinks is he into me and then he's either cute or not so cute and if he's in the not so cute category she doesn't want anything to do with him.

I keep telling her that there is more to life than having a man and she says oh I know that but deep down I know she just isn't getting it. Is that something that is just because of her age? I can't say I remember being that way when I was her age but then again I don't remember yesterday either LOL. I try to change the subject when she brings it up but somehow she always gets it back on the I am so depressed because I don't have a man and I my life just isn't complete because I don't have anyone. I tell her that I don't either and I'm perfectly happy this way. There isn't anyone to tell me what to do.

She also complains because she has so many bills...umm she lives at home with her parents and the only bill she has is her car insurance and her credit card bill and she wouldn't have that if she wouldn't go shopping everytime she gets off of work.

I realize I am throwing her under the bus here but if I don't get out my frustrations with her I am going to explode. I try talking to my mom about her and she just says oh that just her and she'll never change and just think she's moving away soon.

I'm not sure what to do until she does move away. Any tips?

Jbug

I found out today that she got her job in San Antonio so she will be moving next week. I am happy for her because she so wanted this job and I won't have to hear about her lack of man problems but then again I will miss her.

How wierd is that?

Jbug

You reeealy think you're going to miss such an immature person?

dear jbug,

the only thing you may still want to say is "if you are not happy and content as a single person, you won't be when you are married." we all bring what we already are to the marriage. in a 1960's movie called "To Sir, With Love" the teacher, Sidney Poitier said to the students, concerning marriage. "Marriage is not for the weak, the selfish or the immature."

if more people followed that advice we would have less people marrying until they worked on their issues and less marriages anyway and then we'd have less divorces. So many look to marriage to "fulfill" them and that is NOT what marriage does or is about - except in the movies.

Marriage is God's plan for how to mature two selfish single people - just get them married and watch the action - you either learn how to share and give or you get divorced these days.

if you happen to be a praying kind of person I'd say your friend sure needs some prayer that she grows up quickly.

Thanks for the responses. She leaves on Saturday next weekend. I do think I will miss her but on the other hand I think I will miss her like I will miss a hole in the head LOL.

She can be nice but I am thinking that the age difference is just to big and that maybe the fact that her parents don't give her any responsiblity money wise for living at home that she just doesn't get it. I asked her if she was going to get the cable turned on while she was there and she said no she would just watch her movies. I asked her what about the internet she said oh mom pays for that. I asked her if she would be paying rent and she laughed and said I don't here so why would I there? I think an almost 30 year old living at home and no plans to move out should be paying rent or at least help out with the bills. I asked her once when she was going to move out and she said her mom doesn't want her too. I was like ewww when I turned 21 my mom said hit the road..not like that exactly but made it clear that it was time to move out. I guess I just don't understand living at home and not wanting or being asked to pay rent.

Jbug