[UCLAFan]

All my life.My relationship with my mom.Has been very unhealthy.All it has been is verbal and physical abuse.Well right after Christmas 2007.I told my mom.I no longer want a relationship with her.Up untill just last week.She never contacted me.Now she is sending me emails daily.Plus called me a few times.Left me voice mail.I have not responded back.I'm 38 and every year she gets worse.None of her grown kids.Want to be around her.The reason she emailed and called.Is because my brother is sick and in the hospital.But i think she called.For more reasons than that.Plus she is givng me info.That i already know.Because my step mom.Is giving me up dates daily.She says she misses me.But i don't trust her.To much abouse in the past.To trust her or want anything to do with her.This might sound heartless.But i don't miss her at all.

[MINIME]

I know how you feel. My mom is a mean person and i dont talk to her. She never calls anyway but i wouldnt talk to her if she did. None of her other kids talk to her.

[iamtwilight]

it's ok. you don't have to talk to her if you don't want to. i don't talk to the friends who abused me either - though they were close to me. i have missed them, but then i tell myself i'm better off without them.

hugs to you,
twilight

[BlueFaith]

I don't think you sound heartless at all. It's ok not to miss someone that was abusive to you. I think it's great that you are able to draw that line and take care of yourself first.

[darkness89]

My mother is verbally abusive to me. She tells me hurtful things and doesn't even care. If I knew how to completely avoid her so she couldn't hurt me anymore I would. I don't think you're being heartless, I think you're taking care of yourself and that's a good thing.

[C17H27NO2HCl]

I agree with MP. You do not sound heartless. You need to take care of you and if that means having no contact with someone who is hurtful you are doing the right thing.

My mother was verbally abuse to me for many years. Until my 20s I wasn't stong enough to stand up to her and say "No!" When I was young she threatened to leave me if I didn't behave. I was compared to other children I went to school with. When I went to college she still treated me as if I was in elementary school. I was programmed to do whatever was necessary to please her. One day I woke up and am so happy I did.

I have very limited contact with her now. Even after I cut off our relationship it still took a few years for her to get it. I'd get very disturbing emails from her and for a while had to block them.

It's not easy for someone to do what you and I have.

[UCLAFan]

I agree it is not easy.She is so pushy and bossy.But i have ignored her emails and phone calls.Before my briother got sick.I did not hear from her.For 9 months.Thought she got the point.But started bugging me again.Hopefully she gets the point and stops bugging me.

Originally Posted by C17H27NO2HCl

I agree with MP. You do not sound heartless. You need to take care of you and if that means having no contact with someone who is hurtful you are doing the right thing.

My mother was verbally abuse to me for many years. Until my 20s I wasn't stong enough to stand up to her and say "No!" When I was young she threatened to leave me if I didn't behave. I was compared to other children I went to school with. When I went to college she still treated me as if I was in elementary school. I was programmed to do whatever was necessary to please her. One day I woke up and am so happy I did.

I have very limited contact with her now. Even after I cut off our relationship it still took a few years for her to get it. I'd get very disturbing emails from her and for a while had to block them.

It's not easy for someone to do what you and I have.