i feel like no one else is confused as me

Why is it when things get bad i leave them first. i need help growing up and learning how to make a relationship work. ive never been dumped and it doesnt make me feel good because i have to see im the reason nothing ever worked because i left. i hate being alone but ive never stayed with anyone longer than 2 yrs whats wrong with me i keep saying i just havent found mr right but the truth is i did and it still wasnt enough i hurt him to i am looking for a man that is ecxaclly what i want but i want him to accept me the way i am.i have issues!

Hi heatherinturmoil,

Welcome to PC. I surely understand what you are speaking of and I can well imagine it's difficult for you. My thoughts are that in order to find that "perfect" mate, one must really work on themselves first....get themselves to a place of self worth, good or at least better self esteem, and working hard on the issues one has BEFORE you can find that man of your dreams. If we don't work on ourselves first and foremost, then we cannot expect another individual to fix us or to be everything we need. If we don't work on ourselves, then our needs change too quickly and sometimes we don't even really know what we need (or really want)...how can someone else know it and fix it for us??


sabby