[myoasis89]

it really hurt me that my bf is leaving for iraq in a month...he said he was oging to call me..and he did but he was saying that he almost forgot...he also said that he was going to visit me for na hour.before he left..but didn't because he was busy packing...I didn't know he was planning that...but in a way it hurt me...I fely..like well...aren't I important...couldn't you ahve made some time to do that? I ahve family problems and right now I guess I feel that none of them really care for me...I feel I've been suppressed for a long time...he said he was oging to call me tomorrow morning...I told him don't phone me unless you really want to...he said why would I not...that's why I'm asking when your exam is done...I dunno what's wrong with me...am i unresonable

[CedarS]

Sounds like a stressful time for you, during stress it can be easy for miscommunication to happen. I don't think you are being unreasonable but you aren't getting your own needs met. Your boyfriend might just be really preoccupied and not at all intentionally being oblivious.

So you might end up needing to comfort yourself in other ways, have healthy distractions and hobbies going, especially during this time of change and uncertainty.

Maybe ask your boyfriend if the two of you can have some uninterrupted time together, even on the phone, time for just the two of you.

[clara0clear0eyes]

no, you are not being unreasonable and i agree that you are not getting your needs met through him right now and the sad truth is that you may not. (i mean, you may but its - who knows whats going on in his mind i'd be a little preoccupied if i was about to go to war.)
its too soon to tell what will become of the two of you - its gonna be hard with him gone . . .communication.
and i am so sorry to hear that you are going through your own troubles at the same time. timing sucks, huh?

sorry to hear that he is unable to be there for you at this time. how serious is the relationship? were you also trying to spend time together so you could be there for him before he left but he just doesnt seem to get that?

i hope that coming on here helps you find some support and figure things out - i know that's what i'm here for.

sincerely,
clara

[isconfuzzled]

I'm sorry this is happening, it's stressful for both of you. Try for clear communication, I relaly hope things go ok

[MsGie]

Myoasis89, I think your bf is preoccupied with what is going to happen when he goes to Iraq. I do not think he is intentionally pushing you to the back burner. Try to put yourself in his shoes and exam how you would feel if you were going to Iraq in a month with so much uncertainty ahead of you? Once the time gets closer for him to leave, he will want to spend lots of time with you, if the relationship is strong, before he leaves. Here is a suggestion, make a small photo album or scrapbook of him and you and family members for him to take to Iraq with him. This will let him know you are concerned for him and he will in turn always have you to look at while overseas.

MsGie