Friendship communications - I need advice

Well...the person whom this refers too, participates at this site. But that's okay.
Okay, as of recently I've become very attached to a specific person and very clingy, or well...not me in specific. But a few of my alters. This dependancy has caused codependancy...I think I'm driving the girl bonkers. It makes me feel really sad with what she says, she says she can't help me anymore...and that she can't really support me anymore. She also says to leave her alone.... I guess I should. I know she loves me. I don't want to hurt her...but I can't seem to stop my dependancy on her...I need to see a therapist...I know, and I made a to do list to handle all my issues.... so I'm hoping that helps me. The thing is...she wants me to understand things...and such. She says my mother cares about me greatly...but I know my mother, not her....and the things my mother did in the past make it seem like she doesnt. The girl, my friend, is getting hurt by my behavior and actions...and I don't want her to be. I am hoping that by posting this I can get a little advice....since, at the present time...it's nearly impossible for me to see a therapist. Does anybody have any advice on how to stop my dependancy on this person...? How to stop the codependancy...? Or how I can at least make things better between me and her ....? I'm not looking for direct answers, nor am I looking to be told what to do...I just want advice because....I don't know anything myself...so please...if you could give me some insights....some help...I'd appreciate it greatly. I'm afraid that I am going to ruin this relation ship, the relationship with my friend...or that my alters will....and I don't want that.
Another thing I should state while at it...I tend to push people away and yet try to pull them in at the same time...how do I stop that or how do I realize what I'm doing ....or well...any advice on that either...?
Also...another part of me seems to think that the only way to stay in a good and close relationship is by causing alot of melodramatic issues....is there anything I could do about that...?
Please give me some advice. I can't see a perfessional right now...so this forum is the only place I can turn to for advice...

Thankyou in advanced.

-us

Liliah, Are the things with your Mom past issues, could you be still hurting over them, it seems to me your friend maybe having issues of her own that she feels must be dealt with for her own health, just give her a little space to take care of herself, work on your issues here with us
Angie

Digital isnt the same as real life though and yes, there are issues between both myself and both of my parents...but people always say " The past is the past " and such so...they shouldn't really bother me....much.....

Sorry about your struggle Lilah. You do need to give others in your life some space before you smother them and they get frustrated with you. Everyone needs to take care of themselves and it's hard to do that when we feel like we have to care for everyone else. What do you bring into the relationship. You can only take so much from it. Make sure you give back!

You guys make much sense, thankyou very much.....I appreciate all the support.

LILAH: Are you talking about Dagger, one of your alters? She posted once. If that's the case, I think "integration" of alters is beyond us, something more in the realm of a pdoc or t, at least. Or am I mixed up here? Wouldn't be the first time. :|

Adieu

daggers my friend in real life. not one of my alters.....

LILAH: Oops! Then you have already received very good suggestions about how to deal with the problem.

Adieu

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