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Jan 11, 2009, 12:47 PM
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 I am at heart a sensitive person, I will admit that it doesn't take a lot to hurt my feelings, but I believe some people can step over the line, even people who are close to you who may perceive it as joking. Case in point I have a friend who suggested that I was sueing someone just for money when my mom was killed in a horrible car accident that was not her fault. Another case in point, my unit supervisor used extreme profanity when I was trying to locate an item which apparently my work had forgotten to order and I had to look for it for an hour and kept repeatedly telling this person that it was not there even after i went down to the distribution area and dug through boxes and boxes-no item. She told me she wasn't yelling at me, but I was embarrassed and a little pissed off that she would use that profanity in front of me with other people around. It was unprofessional in my opinion. Please let me know if you think I am being sensitive or should I be offended?
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Jan 11, 2009, 06:15 PM
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Your "friend" is definately being insensitive. A "joke" about the events surrounding your mother's death is never in good taste. Is it possible to talk to your supervisor privately and let him/her know that you find the language offensive?
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Jan 11, 2009, 07:00 PM
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Offended!! Absolutely. I'm sorry that there are such insenstive people around you...unfortunately they are everywhere.
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Jan 13, 2009, 10:11 AM
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i don't think you are being too sensitive on the two issues you posted. one, your "friend' is too insensitive. imho, that was a very "out of order" remark. i'd reconsider that "friendship". you had just lost your mom to a terrible event. i'm sorry for your loss.
as for your supervisor, that is not only unprofessional but an issue that could be taken up with your human resources department. that decision is yours of course but i'd consider it. if nothing else i'd ask to speak with the supervisor in private... stating your position on how upsetting this was to you that she used profanity towards you in front of other workers. it would give the supervisor an opportunity to apologize and correct a professional wrong.
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Jan 13, 2009, 03:01 PM
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I agree with Madisgram-you have every right to feel sensitive in light of your 2 examples. I'd definitely go to HR about your boss-no one deserves to be talked to that way for any reason at work. Be glad you didn't start a verbal pissing contest with your boss-I've made that mistake&was eventually aplogized to, but I never trusted that person ever again. Your friend was VERY insensitive-shame on them for being so cold during a time of high stress. All I can offer is hugs&that I've been there as far as the work situation goes.
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Jan 13, 2009, 03:28 PM
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The only motives you can be sure of are your own...and they are nobel.
One of the geatest challenges in anyones life and especially those of us who suffer with emotional hurdles is creating and maintaining firm but loving boundaries... In your examples anxietygirl,,both circumstances were displays of folks whose motives were questionable but who's behavior was despicable. Your were perfectly within your rights to remind them of their lack of tact and sensitivity,,and by that you would have been nearly assured of not having to expereince such nonsense from those people again...And, in turn,,you would have felt some satisfaction in designating a personal boundary of acceptableness and personal strength... People never cease to amaze me in the extent of their self centered blindness...  Please accept my personal condolences on the tragic loss of your Mom... Lenny
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Jan 15, 2009, 08:03 AM
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