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Old Feb 17, 2005, 05:17 AM
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My bf found out that I'm bisexual and he's having a fit. I mean he doesn't know if he wants to stay with me...even though he's the one I want, not anybody else. Do I have to tattoo "Property of Andy" all over my body or what? I love him very much and plan on being with him for a very long time. I told him we could work on it and see how things go. I'm scared he'll leave me and never speak to me again. I couldn't handle that. I don't know how I can explain to him and make him believe me that I'm his and nobody else's.
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Old Feb 17, 2005, 09:24 AM
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so sorry that you're going through this. but you're brave to be honest with him and he will have to learn to trust you.just because you are bi, doesn't have to mean that you will act on it. tell him and hopefully he will open his heart. good luck
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Old Feb 17, 2005, 10:44 AM
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Hi Lexicon --

I don't see that being bi- would make you any more or less promiscuous than someone who was strictly heterosexual. We've only to look to our former president for an example of that.

Best wishes for working this out with your bf.
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Let him get over his insecurity then talk let him know this was a past situation and he has nothing to worry about
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Old Feb 17, 2005, 02:47 PM
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I'm sorry you're hurting. I'm thinking of you.......xoxoxo pat
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Old Feb 17, 2005, 05:03 PM
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It sounds very unsupportive of him to be acting this way. Always remember that you are not his property... you are suppose to be his partner. By being his partner you should be able to be your own person. If he cannot accept who you really are.. maybe he is not right for you.
You should not have to feel as though you need to change anything or keep anything from him.

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Old Feb 17, 2005, 09:55 PM
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I think that a lot of people think of bisexual people as wanting sex with partners of both sexes on a continuing basis, and it is hard to see it in terms of monogamy, maybe that's an area you could discuss with him sometime when things are calm and see if that's what is bothering him.

Finding out that you cannot provide some of your partners sexual enjoyments no matter how hard you try is a difficult thing to live up to also, it takes a pretty secure person to think that they can be enough to make up for that lack.
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hmm I'm sorry *hugs* I don't know why it should matter whether your bisexual or not, you still love him and that's all that matters. I'm sorry he's not being supportive and understanding like he should be!
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